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WEIGHT LOSS
•    Find a diet plan that fits your style
•    Keep a dietary diary
•    Eat a high-protein breakfast
•    Use a pedometer to reach 10,000 steps
•    Try Alli (orlistat) for an OTC weight loss crutch
By now you are probably sick and tired of hearing about the obesity epidemic in America. You already know that bigger is not better and that a large waist size increases the risk of diabetes, high blood pressure, and heart disease. But shedding pounds—and keeping them off—is one of the great challenges of modern life.
It’s not that there is any shortage of advice. There are dozens of diet programs and probably hundreds of diet books available to help you shed pounds, preferably painlessly. Effortless weight loss seems to be the perennial American dream. Some of the diets keep popping up like perennials, as well.
One of them, misleadingly titled “the new mayo clinic diet,” has been circulating on the Internet for a decade. Even then, it was a resuscitation of the “old” mayo clinic diet that had been passed from person to person since the 1960s. The actual Mayo Clinic has disavowed this diet in any of its incarnations, but that doesn’t stop enthusiasts from claiming that you can achieve weight loss of 50 pounds in 2 months by following the plan. People are instructed to breakfast upon eggs, bacon, and grapefruit. Lunch consists of salad, meat, and the ubiquitous grapefruit. For dinner, the dieter has (you guessed it) half a grapefruit plus as much meat as he or she wants and a green or red vegetable cooked in butter. People are encouraged to eat until they are
full.
The sad and simple truth is that there are no shortcuts to the shape you want. Taking off pounds requires taking in less energy than you are using up.This equation has two parts: how much you eat and how much you exercise. Changing either part calls for more effort than many of us can muster in an environment that encourages us to eat more and exercise less. No doubt that’s why new diets have such appeal, even though they are often a familiar approach recycled with a new twist.
There are so many diet plans out there that we can’t possibly tell you about each one. Instead, we will stick to some general guidelines that may help you figure out the best approach for you. This is an arena in which one size does not fit all and, sadly enough, there is no magic bullet. Getting weight under control can be quite a challenge, but it is also a great Opportunity to improve your health.
Dietary Approaches
There is no question that diet is crucial to weight loss. You may not want, or even need, to count calories. But even if you take a diet pill, you can’t lose weight without paying attention to what you eat. Dietitians are fond of pointing out that losing weight is a simple matter of using up fewer calories than you take in. “Simple” it may be, but it isn’t easy, as too many of us know! For best results, of course, you need to work on both sides of the equation.
Pick a Plan
Which diet is best for weight loss? That is a difficult question to answer. Most of the popular diets have not been subjected to rigorous study. Even when they have been studied, few of them have gone head-to-head with others to determine the better or best one.
Scientists at Tufts University did undertake a comparison of four popular diets under “real world” conditions. They enrolled people in the trial and then assigned them randomly to the low-carbohydrate Atkins diet, the low-fat Ornish diet, the Weight Watchers diet plan, or the Zone diet. Although there were some interesting differences in the blood fats at the end of the stud
in terms of weight loss, the programs were about the same.People on the more extreme diets—the low-carb Atkins and the low-fat Ornish—lost a bit more weight than those on the more moderate diets. But more people dropped out of those diet groups as well, perhaps because the more extreme diets are harder to follow.
The main trick is to figure out what diet plan you prefer. We don’t mean “what you like to eat”; if you use a diet that focuses heavily on what you like to eat, it will be far too easy to eat too much. No, you need to ask yourself what you are willing to eat. If going without a single piece of cheese for a year will be a major deprivation, you might not want to adopt a super-low-fat approach. If your Italian soul can’t survive without pasta, an ultra-low-carb approach is probably out. But don’t fret too much. Either diet will work, if you stick with it. And so will a lot of the more moderate diet approaches. The social reinforcement built into the Weight Watchers plan can be very helpful for some people; it drives others nuts.
A meta-analysis of diet studies shows that both low-carbohydrate and low-fat diets are about equally effective for weight loss.831 The question is, Do you need to raise good HDL cholesterol and lower triglycerides as well? If so, choose a low-carb diet. But if you really need to get your total cholesterol and your bad LDL cholesterol under control, the low-fat diet is a better way to go.
We have a friend who has managed to lose and keep off about 30 pounds over the years. This weight loss has brought his total cholesterol down so well that he does not need a cholesterol-lowering drug. Mis surprised his doctor, who assumed that he would require a prescription for Lipitor (atorvastatin) or Zocor (simvastatin) sooner or later.
What impresses us is his persistence. He is always very careful about what he eats. We asked him how he manages to keep it up day after day, and he said he makes it like a game with himself. He actually shifts back and forth between a lowcmb pattern and a low-fat pattern, which helps him prevent boredom. But on any given day, he decides which diet he is following and challenges himself to see how closely he can adhere to it. We don’t know if he gives himself points or has a reward system set up. But playing the game of eating right has a lot of rewards built into it, not the least of which is weight control.
If you like the idea of a game, then we have a wonderful “diet” book to recommend: Eat, Drink, and Weigh Less, by the fabulous vegetarian cookbook author Mollie Katzen and the respected nutrition researcher Walter C. Willett, MD, DrPH, MPH. They devised a numeric concept, the body score, that makes it easy to measure how well you are eating and challenge yourself to do even better. 832
Write It Down
Aside from getting you to focus more on low-calorie, high-nutrient vegetables and fruits, calculating your bodV score brings another tool into play: the dietary diary. Even if you do nothing else in your weight loss efforts, do this. Get yourself a portable notebook. It can be as nice as you like, or as inexpensive as a little flip pad. But it does need to -be small, because you should take it with you everywhere you go and write down everything you eat. Not just the menus of your meals, though that is necessary and can be fun. You must also note every tidbit, every nut, every chocolate chip that you eat between meals.
***** Dietary Diary
No matter which diet you plan to follow, this allows you to track your progress. The simple act of writing it down can help you become more aware of what you are eating. You learn to ask yourself, Do I really want this?
In addition, you can analyze the information in your dietary diary to see what circumstances conspire against your sticking to your plan. Try to figure out other ways to deal with problems like having to rush from appointment to appointment and therefore missing lunch, then discovering that you are starving before dinner and gobbling down a bag of tortilla chips with nacho cheese, sauce.
Downside: Inconvenience. But if you stick with it, writing down what you eat and what else is happening can be a great way to reinforce your diet.
Cost: It’s up to you. You could spend as little as 69 cents on a small notebook or as much as $30 on an elegant bound diary.
And don’t forget to write down what you drink as well. Some of us get a lot of calories from sweetened beverages like soft drinks, fruit drinks, or sweet teas. In fact, this makes up 21 percent of our national calorie consumption. 833 Switching to water most of the time could make a substantial difference in energy intake for some people.
Eat Breakfast
It might seem like a good idea to save on calories—and time—by skipping breakfast. You’ve got enough trouble just trying to pull
get dressed, putogether everything you’ll need for the day, and get out the door. If you’re a parent, you may need to do all of that for your children, as well! It’s not easy. But going without breakfast, or grabbing just a cup of coffee and a piece of toast, is a bad idea. A study that has looked at people who have successfully lost weight and kept it off found that most of them make breakfast an important meal, or at least a reliable one.”"
There are probably some breakfast choices that might be worse for dieters than no breakfast at all. Coffee and a Danish pastry come to mind, so do orange juice and a big stack of pancakes dripping with butter and maple syrup. Foods like this are high in sugar and refined flour that are quickly absorbed and push blood sugar and insulin up rapidly. (This can be quantified in scientific terms as the glycemic index of a food, which compares the food’s effect on blood glucose to that of table sugar.) The result, though, may be that your blood sugar level will crash in 2 or 3 hours, resulting in fatigue and maybe even hunger. Instead of these high-glycemic-index treats that will send blood sugar and insulin on a roller-coaster ride—first way up, then down, way down—you want a meal that will carry you through until lunchtime. That way you have a better chance of resisting the midmorning siren call of cookies or pastry. Breakfast is especially important for children, who pay better attention in school with a little nutrition under their belts.
We like a light scramble made of mostly egg whites plus a whole egg. If that’s too much trouble, how about low-fat cottage cheese with some vegetables? Our quickest breakfast, a smoothie, still has a fair bit of protein in it: a frozen banana (peel it before you put it in the freezer!), a couple of scoops of powdered whey protein, a few teaspoons of powdered egg white, a cup or so of frozen fruit or berries, and about 3/4 cup of yogurt and just enough fruit juice to get the blender to work.
With the juice, you don’t need any sweetener; the whey and egg white are good protein, much better than yogurt alone’, and the berries offer all kinds of nutrients as well as fiber. Anyway, the point here is that you should find a breakfast that fits your tastes and lifestyle and satisfies you so you won’t need a snack before lunch.
Keep Moving
As we pointed out earlier, even the most rigorous diet is only half of the story. The other half is increasing your energy expenditure through physical activity. It needs to be tailored to your lifestyle just as carefully as your meal plan.
The majority of Americans just don’t use their muscles very much. If there were games or sports you enjoyed when you were younger, think about whether you might find the time to dust off the rust and go back to playing tennis, say, or dancing. Choosing something you love means you’ll want to do it frequently, and that is more important than the type of exercise. Gardening, swimming, martial arts, yoga, bicycling, or anything else that gets you moving is fair game. There is definitely some activity that will help you use your muscles; it is up to you to figure out what it is and go for it.
If you can’t think of anything else, consider walking. It’s
Pedometer
This gadget is a favorite at our house. It’s small and lightweight, so you can set it to 0, clip it on your belt, and wear it all day long just to see how many steps you take. Of course, if you have a favorite walking or running course, you can measure the distance in miles or kilometers by wearing the pedometer while you traverse it. The goal of taking 10,000 steps a day is definitely doable, but it provides a good challenge. Public health folks offer it as a starting point.
Downside: it can be tricky to figure out the best place to wear this gadget to get an accurate count. Setting the pedometer so it measures your stride is not as hard as programming a VCR, but it can be a challenge.
Cost: Approximately $25 to $30. You can spend more, but you don’t need to.
cheap and readily available, and it’s good exercise. All you need is a pair of decent shoes and about 20 minutes to spare. If you have been very sedentary, you don’t even want to start with 20 minutes. Begin with 5 minutes and gradually work your way up to longer walks. To give yourself something of an extra challenge, get a step-counting pedometer. Then strive for 10,000 steps a day. Write down your step count every night in your dietary diary. When you can get to 10,000 steps reliably, day after day, set yourself a new challenge.
Herbal Disappointment
Dozens of dietary supplements are promoted as weight loss aids, but the science supporting most of them is lacking. Even when a study is done, the difference between those who took the product and those who took placebo is generally quite modest, possibly just a few pounds over several months. So if someone tries to sell you an all-natural supplement from somewhere exotic—whether it’s the Amazon, Outer Mongolia, or the North Pole—be suspicious. If you are told that the agent will turn on your fat burners or turbocharge your metabolism, double your skepticism. People have been selling herbal diet pills for more than 30 years. If they really worked, we’d all be as thin as we’d like to be. In most cases, the only thing that will lose weight is your wallet.
The track record for herbal diet pills is frankly rather discouraging. For quite a while, ephedra (Ephedra sinica) was promoted as a natural weight loss aid. Companies producing ephedra products made a lot of money until, eventually, the FDA reviewed all the reports of problems with this herb. The agency determined that ephedra was associated with a number of strokes, heart attacks, and other serious complications and called for its removal from the market. Aside from being overweight, some of the people who suffered life-threatening or even fatal side effects were otherwise in good health. This Stimulant might have helped people shed pounds in the short term, but it was not safe enough to be used for the long haul.
Ephedra has stimulant properties, which probably account both for its ability to promote some weight loss and for its potential to trigger a dangerous reaction. A couple of other natural products with stimulant activity have beensu ested for use in weight loss. Green tea835 and yerba matAl
have been considered for this purpose, though the research so far is not impressive. Both contain caffeine, along with other compounds that might be relevant.
Another purported stimulant, Garcinia cambogia (hydroxycitric acid), has also been included in a number of herbal weight loss preparations. A 3-month randomized controlled diet did not demonstrate any weight loss benefit beyond that of placebo.837
Q. What is hoodia? I keep getting e-mail messages that this is a wonderful way to lose weight. Does it work? Is it safe?
A. Hoodia is a cactus that grows in the Kalahari Desert in southern Africa. It is being promoted as a marvelous weight loss agent, but there is very little clinical research to support the claims.
One small, unpublished study (18 obese patients) demonstrated some benefit, but we would need to see far more evidence before recommending this plant product. Questions have been raised about the quality control used in manufacturing hoodia products, and long-term safety has not been established.
Nonprescription Help
One of the reasons that ephedra became so popular was that there were only a few other choices available without a prescription. The most popular over-the-counter (OTC) weight loss ingredient was a decongestant called phenylpropanolamine, or PPA for short. In its heyday during the 1970s and 19805, Dexatrim was one of the most popular brands.
PPA was not as safe as most dieters assumed, however. As early as 1980, British researchers had raised a red flag. When they gave PPA to healthy young medical students, they noted side effects such as an alarming elevation in blood pressure along with dizziness, heart palpitations, headache, insomnia, anxiety, and restlessness. By 1990, doctors in the United States had reported 142 bad reactions to PPA, including bleeding stroke, seizure, and even death. But it took the FDA 10 years to make a move. It requested a study of PPNs safety, particularly with respect to bleeding stroke. Yale investigators found that women who took PPA for the first time in a cough or cold remedy tripled their risk of a stroke. Those using the drug as an appetite suppressant appeared to be at 16 times the stroke risk of a woman not taking
the drug. 8-38
Given these data, FDA staffers estimated that PPA might be responsible for 200 to 500 strokes in people under the age of 50 each year. Extrapolating over all the years it was on the market, PPA could have accounted for as many as 10.000 strokes in people who otherwise would not have been vulnerable to that problem. The agency announced in 2000 that OTC weight loss products would need to be reformulated without PPA.This meant that most dieters could no longer rely on a pill to help them. Ephedra had been taken off the market because it was too dangerous. And PPA was removed as well, also because it was not safe enough.
With the approval of orlistat (available by prescription as
Orlistat (Alli)
This weight loss medication is also available by prescription under the name Xenical. It appears to be one of the few weight loss drugs considered safe for long-term use. Orlistat is intended to be used in conjunction with a reduced-calorie, reduced-fat diet. The drug prevents the absorption of fat from the gastrointestinal tract. Nearly twice as many people on orlistat manage to lose 15 percent of their body weight in a year as people on diet restrictions alone.
Side effects: Most of the side effects are gastrointestinal. Because orlistat prevents the absorption of fat, fat is retained in the imeslines. This may result in stomachache, diarrhea, nausea, flatulence, rectal discharge, and fecal incontinence. Headache is also a possible side effect.
Downside: The drug may interfere with the absorption of fat-soluble vitamins. Take a multivitamin either 2 hours prior to or 2 hours after taking Alli.
Cost: Approximately $50 to $60 per month Xenical) to go over the counter under the name Alli, people finally have a tested do-it-yourself option. The company has chosen the name Alli to imply that it will work best if allied with a full program of dietary and behavior modification approaches. The FDA appears confident that this drug does not pose significant safety issues.
Orlistat is a compound that prevents the absorption of fat. It can help people lose weight, but there are some drawbacks. For one thing, there’s the underwear risk: spotting with oily stool. There also may be increased flatulence, sometimes with discharge. Orlistat doesn’t take you off the hook for eating carefully: The 5- to 6-pound weight loss advantage over placebo occurs only when people eat a reduced-calorie, low-fat diet. Unfortunately, once people stop the medication, they often gain back the weight they lost.
Perhaps Alli would be best used as a “jump start” by someone who’s having a hard time pulling together the pieces of a diet plan. Few people will want to take it year after year, although it does appear to be cost-effective.839
Prescription Weight-Loss Drugs
The history of prescription diet pills in the United States is full of woe and intrigue. Starting in the 1950s, millions of overweight Americans were prescribed amphetamines to help them shed a few extra pounds. Such stimulants were supposed to be taken for only a few months at a time, but they were extremely seductive. Many respectable housewives became dependent on “speed.” This made physicians a bit more cautious about prescribing such medications to help people lose weight.
During the 1990s doctors began to combine two diet pills that had been around for decades. The combination of fenfluramine and phentermine (”fen-phen”) seemed to work better than either drug trouble was, the combination led to heart valve complications. At about the same time, a new appetite suppressant, dexfenfluramine (Redux), was approved. It, too, was associated with heart problems and a potentially life-threatening condition called pulmonary hypertension.
In 1997, the FDA asked the manufacturer to withdraw Redux from the market, although it had been approved only the year before. Fenfluramine was also taken off the market. The fen-phen fiasco was certainly a spectacular disaster. Quite a number of people were left with damaged hearts just because they took drugs to help them lose weight.
Despite this uninspired track record, many people were hoping for the FDA to approve a new diet pill. The claims being made about rimonabant (Zimulti) are extraordinary. It is easy to understand why some people might be eager to try it, even if others are skeptical.
The manufacturer, Sanofi-Aventis, is being especially careful to downplay the cosmetic weight-reducing potential of Zimulti. Instead, they are highlighting other benefits, such as the improvement of lipid profiles. In three large clinical trials, Zimulti resulted in promising metabolic improvements.840,841,842
Good HDL cholesterol rose and bad triglycerides dropped. Insulin efficiency improved and blood sugar levels came down. The positive changes were twice what researchers would have anticipated from weight loss alone. Such metabolic effects may be especially beneficial for people with type 2 diabetes.
What really has millions of people excited, though, is rimonabant’s ability to lower weight. After 1 year on the drug, subjects lost approximately 15 pounds, significantly more than those on placebo. In the world of diet pills, such a loss is impressive.
The buzz surrounding Zimulti is enormous. Weight loss and
iW Rimonabant (Zimulti►
Acomplia is different from other prescription diet pills because it works on an entirely new mechanism. It blocks brain CB0) (cannabinoid 1) receptors that respond to natural marijuana-like compounds. It is more effective than any other medication for weight loss, helping people lose more than 15 pounds over the course of a year.
Acomplia also has beneficial effects on good HDL cholesterol, triglycerides, insulin efficiency, blood sugar level, and blood pressure.
Side effects: Nausea, diarrhea, dizziness, headache, sore throat or flu, anxiety, insomnia, and depression. Most of these were mild and transient, although depression is disconcerting and may lead to suicidal thoughts.
Downside: We don’t have much information on the long-term effects of this new medicine.
improvements in blood glucose, blood pressure, and lipids are certainly much needed. In addition, investigators are studying whether rimonabant may help people quit smoking. There is even some hope that the compound may help people deal effectively with other drug dependencies, including the most prevalent one, alcohol.”
The FDA has delayed approval of rimonabant due to worries about anxiety, depression and suicidal thoughts. It could take years to assess whether the drug is safe enough for longterm use.
Conclusions
Losing excess weight is notoriously difficult, but it can have a profound effect on health. Dropping pounds can help lower blood pressure and get cholesterol under control, as well as alleviating the strain on arthritic joints. Weight loss is probably approached best as a long-term change in lifestyle rather than a short-term goal. If Weight Watchers or a similar program that offers social support appeals to you, by all means try it out. Here are some other suggestions that may help.
•    Find a diet plan that appeals to you. The only program that will work is one that you can stick with long-term.
•    Keep a dietary diary. Write down every single morsel that you stick in your mouth and when. Most of the weight loss gurus that we have consulted over the last few decades emphasize that this one behavior is essential for lasting success.
•    Eat a high-protein breakfast. No more bagels and butter. Skip the orange juice and coffee. A low-glycemic-index meal will carry you through to lunch.
•    Find an exercise you like. Get a pedometer and strive for 10,000 steps a day. Plot your progress in your dietary diary or on a computer.
`If you need a pharmacological boost, consider Alli (orlistat). This fat Mocker may help you lose a few pounds, though the side effects might be embarrassing. Don’t forget to take your vitamins if you take this drug.
•    If all else fails, Acomplia (rimonabant) may provide the help you need to lose weight, improve your cardiometabolic risk factors, and quit smoking. Check with your doctor about the benefits and risks of this prescription drug.

Common health problems
When should I consult
a doctor?
No parent can avoid the difficult or anxious questions about their child’s health, particularly when it is a first child citalopram adhd . As adults, we are usually able to assess our own situation but how can you know about the sickness or health of a baby who doesn’t say or indicate anything?
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Fever
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How high can the temperature be allowed to go’? How long may the fever last? When can a fever be harmful?
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Fevers are also common in the case of gastroenteritis, as indicated above If the baby only has diarrhea, it is good to give her extra liquids in addition to the adapted feeds using tegretol to treat adhd . When a child throws everything up, it is pointless to give feeds or liquids; in this case, it is certainly a good idea to consult the doctor seroquel addiction .
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Convulsions occur up to the age of four years plavix and generic . Once a child has had a convulsion, she may have another convulsion the next time she has a fever, though this does not necessarily happen drug interactions norvasc abilify strattera .
It is not a good idea to suppress the fever with fever suppressants testosterone types us europe . In fact, the chances are that the fever will actually go up again when the suppressant ceases to have an effect, and that this might lead to a convulsion ditropan cl er .
One of the treacherous things is that during the first weeks after birth the child can actually respond to an infection with a very low temperature, instead of with a fever ketoconazole cyp3a inhibit pdf . This also reveals that it is not the temperature that is the important thing, but actually the child’s condition urinary problems using depakote .
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Mreating health problems in the first year
In general, it may be said that a sick child needs extra care, and that resting (in bed) is very important penicillin with naproxen . If the carer feels confident about the way diings are, and is not afraid of the situation, this will give the child a sense of security which will help her to get over the illness how dangerous is aleve . It is not a good idea to bathe a child while she is ill, as the loss of temperature which results from this requires too much strength triamcinolone acet .
Immediately after birth, small problems may arise which can usually be treated with simple reme
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Stomach cramps (colic)
Between the ages of six weeks and three months, many children (one in six) suffer from stomach cramps (colic) diet pills zantac . The child cries loudly, bangs her head back and pulls up her legs allegra musical . She likes to be held upright and carried around phenergan dependency . Holding the baby firmly and wrapping her up warm in a blanket often helps her to relax don’t take allegra before a triathlon . If this is not sufficient, swaddling is a tried and tested remedy (see p drug test wellbutrin .29 and 108) iv lopressor for acute mi . Also keep a eye on your own stress level!
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If the child needs complete relaxation, a bath with camomile tea can be very restful web nexium . This bath should only be given if the child is not ill in any other way viagra tiajuana . It may be necessary to adapt the mother’s diet in consultation with the nurse or baby clinic caffeine and constipation .
Blocked nose
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Sticky eyes
In the beginning, the eyes may become inflamed now and again with yellow crusts does wellbutrin make you emotional . Often the eyes are completely gummed up depakote er tablet design . This may be because the tear ducts are not yet open, and you cannot really do anything about this in the first year ketoconazole drug interactions .
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White spots in the mouth
If there are white spots on the inside of the mouth which do not disappear, this is probably a case of thrush ingredients in augmentin . It is advisable to clean the mouth after every feed with a cloth and some fungal inhibiting remedy lithium polymer batteries 24-48 volt . We mention a number of household remedies here carisoprodol does in long stay system . Depending on the seriousness of the complaint, it is possible to see whether the baby responds well to one or more of the following remedies:
— Molkosan (Vogel) diluted in a ratio of I to 4
— blueberry juice, diluted in a ratio of I to 10
— Weleda mouth water, diluted in a ratio of 1 to 50
— camomile tea
Wind a cotton cloth or a piece of gauze around your finger, moisten it with one of the above-mentioned solutions and get the baby to suck on this ibuprofen advil or bayer . Treat the breasts with this remedy after every feed as well (see also cracked nipples, p seroquel cost .59) hyponatremia citalopram . If these remedies do not help, or if the baby is sick, has problems with drinking, diarrhea and/or a red bottom, consult the baby clinic about this problem in good time sertraline hcl .
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contact with the baby’s mouth every day; don’t forget your own hands actos and diaheria .
The fungus which causes thrush can get into the baby’s stools; it is a good idea to treat the bottom promptly with baby balm (Weleda), or zinc oil to prevent the baby’s bottom from being affected dong levothyroxine . If the condition is accompanied by diarrhea, it is advisable to consult a doctor ic and ibuprofen .
Spots on the face
(milk spots or baby acne)
At first, spots on the face are very common testosterone replacement testimonials pics . Usually, they disappear by themselves after a few weeks celexa sideeffects .
Teething
The baby’s first teeth can be very painful dog ate aleve . He will suddenly start to cry loudly, chew on everything, dribble a lot and may suffer from diarrhea and a red bottom evista min . It is helpful to massage the gums or give the baby a teething ring and possibly some grains of Chamomilla radix D3 1995 intagra .
Earache
If the child wakes up screaming in the night, grabbing hold of his ear, this could be a sign of an ear infection 40 hr lithium battery . The pain increases when the child is lying down crush flomax per tube . In many cases, the child will have been difficult and active before this at the end of the day cause of low testosterone . If you press on the bone just in front of the ear, this really hurts, which indicates that there is probably an ear infection opening cephalexin capsules .
The following measures are certainly worth trying: place an onion compress (see p tamoxifen for prevention of breast cancer .110) behind the painful red ear, and if possible hold it there for the night herbal viagra guy almighty . Drip some physiological saline drops into the nostrils (see ‘Blocked nose,’ p effect of warfarin on the ptt .99); slightly raise the head end of the bed, for example, by placing a pillow under the mattress boniva and weight gain .
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A snuffly baby
Children may suffer from a constant runny nose ciprofloxacin and amoxicillin ulcer . This can be reduced by placing a slice of lemon under the feet, covered by a sock, by placing a sliced onion next to the bed or by dripping a physiological saline drops into the nostrils (see ‘blocked nose,’ p levofloxacin resistance gonnorhea .99) ultram vicodin interaction .
Coughs and colds
For these complaints, it is important that the child is warmly dressed, paying particular attention to the chest and back as regards warmth oscillopsia prozac . In this case, woollen and silk underclothes are really essential (see p itraconazole cost .27) clindamycin 150 mg use .
Drinking sage tea (made in the same way as ordinary tea) and rubbing the chest and back with thyme oil (Wala) can also be helpful furosemide in diabetics .
Red bottom
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In this case it is important to clean the bottom carefully with oil or water, to dry it thoroughly, possibly with a hair dryer and to apply baby balm (Weleda), mercurialis ointment (Weleda, Wala), zinc ointment or an ointment prescribed by the doctor atorvastatin litigation 2008 . Different sorts of diapers (nappies) may also improve matters testosterone dominance . If the condition is caused by thrush, you should consult the doctor determining acetylsalicylic acid content of asprin .
Watery diapers (nappies)
If a child produces a large number of watery nappies every day, it has diarrhea and you should contact the doctor does celebrex help with lung disease . This can be caused by gastroenteritis, teething or thrush nexium interaction . Babies in particular lose a lot of moisture and minerals when they have diarrhea, and this can result in dehydration augmentin alcohol .
When the nappies merely have thin stools, but not watery stools, it is possible to try some dietary measures first side efffects simvastatin .
In principle, it is always possible to go on brewstfeeding, even if the baby has diarrhea coumadin eruption . If the baby is bottle fed, give it some extra liquid such as rice water and if the baby has cereals in the bottle or supplements, add rice flour or rice flakes simvastatin contamination . Pureed apple, banana, toast and rusks have a constipating effect, carrots are neutral ultram stomach ache .
Constipation
The child is constipated if the stools are hard and there are only sporadic stools in the diapers (nappies) at intervals of a few days, produced with
a great deal of difficulty and sometimes pain coumadin spots brain mri . Babies which are only breastfed are never really constipated with hard stools, even though there may be no bowel movements for up to a week effectiveness of zoloft . It may happen with babies who are bottle fed propecia called in . In this case, add some moisture and some extra oil (1 teaspoon of sunflower or olive oil to one bottle a day) or, if the child is ready for it, some orange juice or the water that prunes have been soaked in cialis dysfunction erectile .
Cold feet
Small children often have cold feet and sometimes cold lower legs vytorin and anger . This is not very desirable, as described earlier, p viagra for animals .24 can lithium cause tardive dyskinesia .
It helps to put on a pair of extra warm socks, rub the feet with copper ointment, or place a hot water bottle in the bed, removing it before putting the baby to bed effects of synthroid . You can discuss this at the baby clinic prednisone treat ment for ms .
Swimming for babies
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Folic acid for a new pregnancy?
For over a decade, a campaign has been in place advising women who wanted to become pregnant to take folic acid tablets while trying to conceive and for the first three months of pregnancy gabapentin me . Taking folic acid was aimed at reducing the chances of having a child with spina bifida or other neural tube deficiencies lopressor dry skin .
The advice was to take a tablet of 0 methotrexate liver cancer .4 mg of folic acid every day from four weeks before fertilization until twelve weeks after tramadol withdraw help . In practice, this amounts to taking folic acid as soon you try to become pregnant high dose of amoxicillin . If you have an unplanned pregnancy, it is still possible to take these tablets for twelve weeks after fertilization lexapro bleeding side effects . The tablets are available from chemists, pharmacists, health food shops, even supermarkets seroquel stories .
Women with an increased risk (see below) are also advised to take 0 amoxicillin in pill form .4 mg, while women who have already had a child with spina bifida should take a higher dosage of folic acid, under the supervision of their doctor, midwife or gynaecologist caduet dose . Multivitamin compounds are not
advisable, unless prescribed by the doctor, because of the danger of overdosing on certain vitamins risperdal work side effects .
Not everyone will automatically want to follow this advice and start taking extra tablets for such a natural process as pregnancy does paxil show up as benzos . Nevertheless, it is impossible to ignore the option nowadays and when deciding whether or not to take the folic acid tablets, it may be helpful to be aware of a number of facts how does prednisone affect your period .
The chance of having a child with a spinal column defect, a defect in the development of the nervous system, is normally not very great at a very early stage of pregnancy premarin resonance . It occurs on average in 1 in 700 children 1000mg augmentin xr .
The seriousness of this defect varies a great deal phenergan for migraines . In some of the children, the disorder is so serious that it is incompatible with life and the child only lives fora few days avandaryl and heart attack . Children who have spina bifida live with a handicap in the form of intestinal and bladder abnormalities and paralysis geodon fatigue .
A number of factors play a role in the development of a defect in the spinal column and cord, though these are only partially understood how to use viagra . However, it is clear that hereditary factors play a role (the disorder is found in the family), and that the use of certain medicines for epilepsy or diabetes can result in an increased risk propecia and testosterone levels . These women have a so-called increased risk quitting effexor three weeks after quitting . In addition, the availability of certain foods also plays a role clindamycin dose for humans .
Research has shown that women who have already had a child with a defect in the spinal cord, and who take a fairly high dosage of folic acid during the first stage of their next pregnancy, have 70% less chance of having a child with the same disorder trazodone for teenagers . Research on women taking folic acid without the risk factors, revealed a reduction in the chance of this disorder by 50% viagra 100mg sildenafil citrate pfizer labs .
Folic acid is a vitamin in the vitamin B group, which is naturally found in many foods such as vegetables, fruit, cereals, pulses, dairy products and meat wellbutrin and cold medicine . It plays a role in the rapid division of cells in tissue fluoxetine remicad and prednisone . This obviously takes place in the developing child, and in adults, it plays a role in the mucus membranes of the intestines stock dose of salbutamol . It is not known exactly how the mechanism of folic acid works, but it is obvious that folic acid is essential soma pharmacy online sale .
The average European diet includes approximately 0 ultram show available .25 mg of folic acid per day allegra s window . It is assumed that tinder normal circumstances this is sufficient risperdal and anxiety . Under certain circumstances, for example, with the use of the contraceptive pill, the folic acid requirement is slightly increased safe testosterone supplement . In view of the results of the above-mentioned research, the need for folic acid is probably also greater than 0 taste impairment amoxycillin .25 mg during pregnancy clomiphene and menstruation . The exact requirement is not known flesh caffeine free mp3 .
The advice assumes that 0 flomax versus uroxatral .4 rng per day covers the extra need for
folic acid, even in women with an increased risk time of onset for penicillin reaction . Women who have already had a child with a defect in the spinal cord are advised to take a much higher dosage, that is, 5 mg per day purchase nolvadex pharmacy rx on line . It is assumed that these doses are not harmful amiodarone shiny skin hands . Certainly there are no known side effects dose of doxycycline for a cat . It is only when extremely high doses of folic acid were given in animal tests that there were harmful effects on the kidneys and nervous system ruffert bendamustine 1989 and vincristine prednisone .
Therefore, folic acid reduces the chance of a disorder but does not prevent it in all cases premarin horse farms .
On the basis of the knowledge available at the moment, you will have to choose whether or not to take these folic acid tablets weaning a dog off prednisone . For example, if you took the contraceptive pill before becoming pregnant, this could be an argument to take it how to take clomid for invitro . In cases of doubt, it is certainly a good idea to consult the doctor glucophage xr 500 mg .
It is not an easy matter to achieve a dose of 0 using augmentin in cats .4 mg through diet, in view of the quantities of vegetables and fruits which would have to be eaten orthocept 28 mircette . On the other hand, someone who did not want to take the tablets could take products rich in folic acid into account in their diet hypothyroid symptoms go away with thyroxine . These include broccoli, asparagus, sprouts, beetroot, strawberries, elderberries, buckthorn, berries, bananas, pears, oranges and wholewheat products long term lithium ion battery . Like vitamin C, folic acid is sensitive to heat batterywholesale com lithium battery cross reference .

The Baby Clinic
When a mother is expecting a child, this is the beginning of an exciting period; a time of ‘expectation,’ followed by the birth and the baby’s first year. It is a special event every time, but particularly with a first child. Parenthood is `born’ along with the child, bringing all sorts of new tasks and experiences with it.
Baby clinics are located at health centres in virtually every town, and have the important task of monitoring the children and helping parents to look after their young children. In addition to ordinary baby clinics, there are also some clinics based on the approach used in anthroposophical medicine. In general, these are linked to anthroposophical medical practices.
All the work of these clinics is concerned with providing preventative care for children from birth to the age of four or five years. In general, this means providing help and support for parents to promote their child’s health.
The doctor and nursing staff at the clinic devote their attention to the physical and psychological development of your child. They ask questions and examine the child to check for certain disorders: for example, growth or psychomotor disorders; disorders or malfunctions of the cardiovascular system, lungs, kidneys and reproductive organs; ear, nose and throat disorders-, disorders of the abdomen, arms and legs; disorders of the teeth, and visual and hearing disorders.
At anthroposophical baby clinics, the constitutional characteristics of the child are also examined, and the personal characteristics and features, which might indicate a particular approach for medical and/or educational measures, are considered. After all, no child develops in accordance with the statistical norm. It is only by examining the individual developmental opportunities and problems of a child that it is possible to give appropriate advice. This is not so much a matter of preventing disorders, but of helping to ensure that the various developmental stages of the child follow each other in an appropriate way.
In addition, the baby clinic is an important place for parents to ask questions, as advice is offered on different subjects, including feeding and growth, upbringing and looking after the baby, physical and psychological development and the issue of inoculations.

The advice on children from birth to one year which you will find in this book is in line with the care provided by anthroposophical baby clinics, and may differ from the advice given by ordinary clinics, and is related to the views held by the doctor and nursing staff regarding the developing child. In Chapter 2 of this book you will find the viewpoints which form the background for the practical advice. This may be helpful when you want to make your own decision in a particular situation. However, this book serves to supplement rather than replace the supervision of the baby clinic. Whichever clinic you choose, it is important that you discuss any concerns you have, and express what you want, at the clinic.
We hope that the various subjects discussed will encourage a conscious approach to parenting and be helpful with regard to understanding, and living with, a developing child.

Pregnancy
Dufing pregnancy, the mother-tobe is in a very special condition, both physically and psychologically. There are all sorts of indications of a reduction in her level of consciousness, which may be manifested by drowsiness, diminished powers of concentration, dizziness, light-headedness and a floating sensation. At a physical level, there is a loss of muscular strength and a loss of tension in all the involuntary muscles. For example, the intestines work less effectively, which can result in constipation. There may also be changes in the action of the kidneys, blood pressure and pulse.
In a way, this whole condition resembles sleep. You could say that a pregnant woman floats between a waking and sleeping state and feels dreamier than she did before. Nevertheless, many women feel very well and active at the same time.
Pregnancy can be divided into three terms, each of roughly three months’ duration.
In the first three months, the woman’s organism has to be ‘transformed’ into a pregnant condition, or, as described above, the organism has to achieve a state between waking and sleeping. The fact that this is an intensive change is clear from the fact that the first three months of pregnancy are usually accompanied by nausea, vomiting and tiredness. It is during these months that the egg is fertilized, becomes embedded in the womb and the foetus starts to develop. It is a relatively vulnerable period of pregnancy in which miscarriages are fairly common (10%). See p.102 folic acid.
The second three-month term is usually the easiest. The pregnant woman becomes used to her condition, can do all sorts of things and does not experience much physical discomfort from the foetus. The foetus has become ‘firmly established,’ as is shown by the small number of problems during this period.
During the third stage, the physical manifestation of the child becomes increasingly clear, with a large stomach being the first sign of this. The discomfort which a pregnant woman experiences when bending down, urinating, feeling full after a meal, being unable to move, run, laugh and sit, reveals that the child has a clear physical presence. The foetus now becomes more vulnerable again. There may be bleeding or even a premature birth. At the end of this period, birth is often experienced as a real release.
When the woman has given birth, all the symptoms of the condition between waking and sleeping gradually disappear again. Only if she breastfeeds will this process be slightly postponed.
An overview of pregnancy reveals that the pregnant woman achieves a condition where she ‘makes way’ for the child to come; in which the child establishes a place on the way to birth. In a way, the expectant mother becomes less ‘earthly,’ while the child becomes increasingly ‘earthbound.’ From this perspective it is, therefore, not surprising that expectant mothers experience moments of contact with their unborn child. After all, both are in an ‘interim state;’ a state between the earthly world and the world that the child is coming from.
If we try to approach the woman’s pregnancy in this manner — taking the idea of ‘making way’ seriously — it is clearly understandable that during pregnancy a woman often finds it difficult to tolerate direct
confrontation with the world around her, and even tries to avoid it altogether. ‘Listening’ to her inner self is the best guideline.
It obviously goes without saying that alcohol and smoking should be avoided because they are known to affect the development and growth of the unborn child, and medicines should only be taken after consultation with the doctor. In addition, a natural, healthy and varied diet is clearly important for both mother and child.
To prepare for breastfeeding, it is a good idea to apply Weleda iris jelly to the nipples every day to prevent the skin cracking during breastfeeding. Stretch marks are largely dependant on genetic factors. However, it makes sense to keep the skin, particularly around the stomach and thighs, supple during pregnancy, by rubbing the skin twice daily with Weleda arnica massage oil. If there is a sensitivity to arnica, it is possible to use Weleda calendula massage oil.
The birth
Experiencing the birth of a child is one of the most intimate experiences in life. Feelings of astonishment, joy, anxiety, fear and fulfilment are experienced to extremes during the birth. Obviously these are most intense for the woman who is having the baby, but the family members and obstetric staff attending her fully share in the intensity of feeling.

It starts with the excitement and anticipation of what will happen when the waters break or the first contractions start. Getting everything ready, the support and help of the midwife during contractions, the constant question of how far the process has advanced — these are all part of the active and busy atmosphere of birth. However, sometimes there are also moments of near serenity and tranquillity; an atmosphere of relaxation, trust and complete surrender to what is to come.
The birth takes place in these recurrent and alternating periods of intense activity and intense tranquillity. Everyone attending the birth finds that a unique atmosphere develops as a result of these alternate emotions, which can go on for many hours. It is an incomparable atmosphere, evoking feelings of deep wonder and awe.
The focal point of everything that is going on is the mother-to-be. She is in touch with the deepest natural forces in her body, and is in danger of being overwhelmed by these natural forces, with an intensity which rarely occurs in life. She may also feel that she does not have the strength to give birth on her own, and may be very grateful to accept the instructions of the obstetric staff, so that the sense of impotence can make way for a sense of trust in the successful end of the birth.
When the cervix is fully dilated, the moment arrives when she can
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use all her strength to help the child to be born by pushing it out. Just before this moment, it is quite common for the woman’s consciousness to be almost overwhelmed, and then return quite vivdly with the first push. This stage of pushing the baby out is extremely hard work, even though sometimes it only requires one big contraction.
From the moment that the baby’s head emerges, the atmosphere changes immediately. All attention is focused on the delivery of the rest of the baby, who eventually experiences light, air and gravity for the first time, is placed on its mother’s stomach and swaddled in warm nappies (diapers). If not giving birth at home, you should check with your midwife or consultant to see if it is possible to have a warm cloth to swaddle the baby in. All eyes are on the baby; the noises, movements, eyes and hair. Everyone feels an urge to touch the baby and stroke it.
Then the obstetrician focuses on the last part of the delivery: cutting the umbilical cord and delivering the placenta.
The whole birth is only really complete when the mother has been washed and cleaned up, and is holding the pink, warm, swaddled baby in her arms, and is surrounded by everyone who was present at the birth. The whole spectrum of emotions is experienced, together with a sense of satisfaction, gratitude and respect for the forces that play a role in the birth process.

The birth described above is probably the birth every parent dreams of. And yet, no two births are the same. The life of every person starts with a unique event; the delivery. Some children have a difficult start, for example, if the birth was induced too early, the baby was born prematurely, or if the delivery involved a great deal of medical intervention. In the UK most babies are now born in hospital, but it is possible to discuss your birth plan beforehand with your midwife or consultant.
For parents, the fear about the baby’s health or being overwhelmed by a premature birth can obstruct the feelings of wonder and gratitude described above. Sometimes it may be a while before you can start to love your child in a relaxed way and feel an obvious connection with it, particularly if you feel unsure or anxious. This takes time, so you must try and take the time that is needed. If you were admitted to hospital, you can organize a sort of second birth experience, so that when the baby comes home, you can get used to each other, feel each other, and build up a new life together. Many parents have described that this helped them to recognise the healthy aspects of the child and his lust for life.
Parenthood
The birth of a child is an intense experience for the parents, particularly
the birth of their first child. In fact, it brings about many changes. Before the birth the parents had a relationship with each other, and after the birth they have suddenly become parents and formed a family. Obviously, they still have a relationship, but the partners no longer relate exclusively to each other. In particular, the mother focuses body and soul on her child. After the birth it may be a very long time, sometimes as long as a year, before she feels her old self. Consequently, owing to the new situation in which they find themselves, parents have to redefine the way in which they relate to each other.
This process is extremely demanding because the father and mother are involved with the child in very different ways during pregnancy and birth, and during the initial period after birth. The father may have a tendency to continue his old life with some modifications, while the mother has a deep sense that everything has changed. It may be a while before the partners find a new way of relating to each other on the basis of these two different worlds of experience. It is important to take time for this process and talk about it together from time to time.
What was described above applies particularly for the situation in which mother, father and child(ren) form the family. Where there is a one-parent family from birth, this process will particularly concern the mother.

After the birth, another process starts as well in that all parents discover themselves in a new way. They experience new positive feelings, although they can also have a negative character. A child brings happiness and joy, but there are also moments when irritation reaches unimagined heights.
In the whole range of emotions evoked by a child, feelings of anxiety have a special place, giving rise to questions such as: Am I doing it right’? Will anything happen to my child or me? Will everything be okay?
Every step in the child’s development is another step out into the world. From the age of three, the child even ventures beyond the horizons of the parents; he walks around the block or goes to school for the first time.
Some people are more sensitive to these anxieties than others, but since this anxiety is fruitless — and can really make life difficult for a child — something should be found to counterbalance it. Sometimes gaining an insight into the situation helps to diminish the anxiety, but often this is not enough. In order to tackle the anxiety in a structured way, it may be necessary to work on strengthening the parents’ confidence. Obviously this does not mean blind faith that ‘everything will probably be alright.’ It is not as simple as that. It means that it is possible to work on the confidence about the direction in which the
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child is moving, even though unexpected and undesired events may play a role. White anxiety is often ,our own problem,’ confidence can become a strength, which allows the child to flourish; having confidence in someone gives them the strength to grow.
In addition, a child often gives us a new sense of self-awareness: with his behaviour and imitations, he holds up a mirror to his parents. From the age of a few months you will see that a child assimilates the world by imitating it. The child copies everything he encounters, both internally and externally. For parents, this means that what they do and how they do things is important. Whether we do things hastily or with care, whether we do things unwillingly or with joy; all these aspects permeate the actions we perform and are unconsciously assimilated and imitated by the child. This also applies to what we say. Long before the child can understand our words, he will be aware of our intentions. Experiencing this, and occasionally having the things which we do and say, and how we do and say them, reflected by a child will lead to self-awareness, and possibly to a change in our way of being and doing things.
In positive terms, a child stimulates us to develop ourselves as well. There is also a third process. By experiencing the development of a small child and feeling co-responsible for him, it is possible to focus on your own childhood. Some things from your own childhood can lead to the feeling that ‘I want to do things for my children like that as well,’ while at other moments, you feel that ‘I want to spare my children this or that.’ Sometimes this encounter with your own past can be quite intense. It’s good to know that it is not unusual.
Just as we re-examine our own past, we also start to have a different
view of the future; in a sense looking to the future through the child. The future shines through the small child and urges us to determine the structure for that future.
Above, we have highlighted a number of the issues which will confront every parent; the redefinition of the relationship with their partner and other members of the family, a redefinition of themselves, and a new view of the past and the future.

What can I do to help?
partners at the birth
Should I be with my partner as soon as she goes into labour? I’ve heard that first babies take ages.
It’s true that first labours often take quite a few hours, although this is certainly not the case with everyone! When your partner notices signs that labour is beginning, such as a mucousy ’show”, the waters breaking, or irregular period-type pains, she may wish you to be with her. On the other hand, she may be happy to be alone, or with a friend or relative,
and keep you updated by phone Whether or not -you are there really depends on how she feels so good communication between the two of you is the key.
Once your partner is having regular, painful contractions about every five minutes, it would probably be best to be with her, if you aren’t already It is usually around this time that you should be making your way to hospital, if that is where you are planning to have the baby, or contacting the midwife if you are planning a home birth.
I feel very panicky about getting my partner to hospital on time. How can I calm down?
Your anxiety is understandable. However, not many babies are born on roadsides or in hospital car parks — that’s why these stories make their way into newspapers and magazines! It is hard to advise on a definite time to go into hospital as every labour is different and follows a slightly different pattern. However, as a general rule, you should think about going in to hospital if:
•    Your partner has had any vaginal bleeding.
•    Your partner’s waters break (see p.167), She may notice this as a gush of fluid from the vagina, or a more gradual leaking.
* Your partner’s contractions (which are often described as strong period-type pains that are
accompanied by a hardening of the bump) are lasting around 45 seconds each and coming regularly, at least every five minutes.
If you or your partner are unsure about how to proceed, don’t hesitate to give the labour ward a call. An experienced midwife can tell a lot about how far into her labour a woman is likely to be just from talking to her about what is happening.
I’ve heard lots of stories about blokes in the labour ward - I want to be helpful, but I am nervous.
Many men are very anxious about being with their partners during labour and birth. This is often due to the fact that they will be watching their partner experience one of the most intense things a woman can ever do and they may be unsure of how to help
Probably the best way to help overcome your fears is to talk to your partner about how you feel and try to discuss ways in which you could help. You will probably find that there are plenty of ways in which you can support her, such as being aware of her wishes and speaking for her if she is unable to because of the pain, repeating what midwives and doctors have said if she didn’t hear or process the information, passing her a drink, rubbing her back, holding a flannel to her face, switching music on or off, and generally encouraging and reassuring her.
Attending birth preparation classes together can be very useful You will be able to learn more about the process of labour and birth, which can be helpful, and you will learn about how to support -your partner both physically and emotionally. Some classes teach birth partners massage techniques that can be an effective form of pain relief during tabour You will also be shown how you can support your partner in certain birth positions. Your partner’s midwife will be able to advise you on classes available in your area.
I really don’t want to be there - how will I tell her and who should go in my place?
Honesty is the best policy, so you need to talk to your partner about your concerns well in advance of the big day. Although she may feel disappointed at first that you don’t want to be there, she should appreciate your reasons if they are valid ones. Perhaps you could try to reach some sort of compromise whereby you will be with her during the earlier stages of labour, go out for the actual birth (if you are worried about this), and then come back in again straight afterwards to support your partner and meet your new baby
It is up to your partner who else she has with her during labour Women often choose their mum, sister, another female relative, or a close friend to be with them However, if she can’t think of anyone suitable, you may want to consider hiring a doula, who support women in labour (see p. 196); there are websites that can help you with this (see p.310). Your partner may also wish to have more than one birth partner, which most hospitals are happy to accommodate.
What should we do when my partner goes into labour?
Although it is often hard to define when labour has started, if the signs are that your partner is in the early first stages of labour (see p.167), you can both continue with normal activities as long as she feels comfortable. Being aware of how labour progresses and how contractions build up can help you to plan your course of action. For example, if your partner’s waters have broken, established labour usually follows within a few hours (although not always) and it is best to inform the hospital
While you wait for the contractions to become stronger and more regular, try to relax as much as possible between contractions You could make a healthy snack for you both to provide fuel for the hours ahead, practise breathing and relaxation techniques together, or run a warm bath to help your partner relax Once the contractions are around every five minutes and last about 45 seconds, you may wish to consider going into hospital, if that is where you are planning to have your baby. Ring the labour ward first to let them know what is happening
Is massage useful, or will my partner find it irritating when she’s trying to cope with the pain?
Many women find massage, particularly of the lower back to be very helpful during labour. The sensations of warmth and pressure can be soothing and give some relief from pain during labour. Massage stimulates the body to release endorphins, which are the body’s natural painkillers, and also acts as a ”distraction” from pain, providing another focus Communication is the key when it comes to massage. For example, your partner can tell you whether she wants to be massaged during contractions. or just between the contractions, or whether she wants firm or light pressure. You will probably learn simple massage techniques during birth preparation classes, or you may find some classes dedicated to massage techniques for labour. Ask the midwife what is available in your area
It can be the case that some women find that they do not want to be touched at all during labour If your partner feels this way, try not to take it personally -this is her way of dealing with the pain
Apart from massage, are there other ways I can help my partner cope with the pain?
Every woman’s experience of pain during labour is different, and they will have different ways of coping It can be difficult to know in advance if a particular coping technique will help, but many couples find
it helpful to talk before labour about how they might feel, and how the partner may be able to help. While some women find massage beneficial (see above). others will need help to focus on keeping their breathing slow and steady It’s worth practising labour positions that require the support of a partner before the actual birth (see p.182 and p 186). Having some favourite music on in the room may help your partner to relax Above all, most women appreciate encouragement and gentle loving support from their partner, and just the fact that you are there will go a long way in helping her to cope with the pain and exhaustion of labour and birth.
My friend’s husband won’t be at the birth. She wants me to be her birth partner. How can I prepare?
It’s a great privilege to be asked to be a birth partner for a friend and there are plenty of things you can do to prepare for the event. Obviously you will need to talk in advance about your friend’s expectations for labour and familiarize yourself with her birth plan if she has prepared one (see p 149). It’s important to be sensitive to your friend’s wishes, for example does she want you to remain with her throughout, or would she like you to leave the room if she has an internal examination? Talk to her about how she thinks she might react under stress and in pain - is she likely to shout or perhaps become more withdrawn? - so that you can prepare yourself mentally to deal with this. It would also be wise to find out as much as possible about what birth entails - the different stages of labour and what can help or hinder them. You could suggest attending antenatal classes with your friend so that you feel fully informed. It may also help to talk to someone else who has been a birth partner and who may have some useful tips. Bear in mind that you may need to be with your friend for a fairly lengthy amount of time. so you may want to have some provisions for yourself, such as snacks and drinks. You may also need periods of relief during the labour, and there may be times when you feel your morale is flagging. in which case it can be a good idea to have someone on standby who you can phone for encouragement and support.
How will I feel when I see a male doctor examine my partner? Will I feel jealous?
If labour and birth are straightforward, it is unlikely that your partner will need to be examined by a doctor. It is only if there is some concern over the wellbeing of either your partner or the baby, or both, that a doctor’s opinion is sought Even in this situation, an internal examination is not always necessary.
If your partner did need to be examined, you would probably find that you would be too worried to be aware of any feelings of jealousy Doctors, whether male or female, have only your partner’s and baby’s health in mind when they are performing any kind of examination.
I secretly want a boy - I haven’t told my partner - how will I cope if it’s a girl?
This is certainly not an unusual feeling to have and I think that many prospective parents have a preference, secret or otherwise, for a baby of a particular sex While it may take you a little while to become accustomed to having a baby of your less preferred” gender, you may well find that you have no problems at all bonding with the baby if it is a girl Seeing your own newborn baby for the first time is something that no-one can prepare for, and many parents feel a strong rush of emotion straight away. Others take a little longer to fall in love with their baby, and this is fine too.
Whichever sex your baby is, it takes time to get to know him or her. You will probably find that you relish watching every little movement and expression,
touching and stroking his or her little body, and will enjoy learning about all the different aspects of baby care. By being involved with your baby from the beginning, you will quickly experience the joy of parenting your son or daughter
I can be quite panicky in stressful situations. What if I pass out?
The image of the father-to-be fainting onto the floor of the delivery room is often portrayed in cartoons and on birth congratulation cards, but it is far from funny if it actually does happen! Fortunately, it is probably much less common than you may think.
It is understandable for any birth partner to
feel anxious and tense — you are watching someone you care about in pain, and you are m unfamiliar surroundings experiencing probably the most significant moments of your life! Focusing on your partner and attending to her needs may help to keep you occupied and distracted and less likely to dwell on your own anxieties. Also, developing a trusting relationship with your partner’s caregivers will help you feel able to express any worries you are having, and hopefully you will be given the reassurance and information you need
If you do find yourself feeling even the slightest bit woozy, try and leave the room as the midwife will be focused on caring for the mother and baby If you do not have time to leave the room to seek help, and you feel faint, dizzy, or light-headed, try to sit down immediately, with your head lower than your hips, or lie down with your feet raised Try to stop yourself “panic breathing” (breathing quickly and lightly), and take slow, deep breaths You should find that the feeling passes quite quickly. The midwife will probably ring the buzzer for assistance. A good tip is to ensure that you are not too hot — take shorts and a T-shirt with you as delivery rooms can be quite stuffy — and make sure you eat and drink regularly to prevent your feeling faint due to low blood sugar.
Our little boy suffered a lack of oxygen at his birth. He is fine, but I’m anxious about this delivery.
Unborn babies are designed to cope with a moderate lack of oxygen during the birth, which is quite normal Some babies do suffer a greater lack of oxygen, and midwives are often alerted to this by observing the baby’s heart-rate pattern If there is any cause for concern, the baby can be delivered quickly either by forceps or ventouse, or by a Caesarean section In most cases, the baby is born in a healthy condition, or responds quickly to resuscitation after the birth.
Every labour is different and there is no reason why your next baby should react to labour in the same way as your first, but your baby’s heart rate will, of course, be monitored very closely, so you should feel reassured by this.
Will I be able to help the midwife cut the cord after the birth?
It is popular for the baby’s father, or another birth partner, to cut the umbilical cord after the birth. Midwives and doctors are usually happy for this to
happen, as long as there are no problems with the mother or baby that would necessitate the cord being cut very quickly
The cord is tougher than most people think, but the midwife will guide you and show you how to cut it safely. Be warned that it usually takes quite a few attempts to sever it completely!
Will I be able to video or photograph the birth and do I need to agree this in advance?
Most hospitals are happy for you to film or photograph the birth of your baby if that is what you both want However, before you embark on this, you should first check that the midwives or doctors who will be conducting the actual delivery have no objection, as some professionals do not wish to be filmed for legal reasons.
While some couples treasure having a visual record of probably the most special and momentous time of their lives, other couples prefer to start filming or photographing their baby after the actual birth. It is important to consider the impact that being filmed or photographed at such an intimate and vulnerable time could have on your partner, and she should not feel in any way pressured to be filmed Also, it might be worth thinking about how filming the event may affect your actual participation in the birth. If you are concentrating on filming or taking photographs, you may not be as involved in the birth as you could be and may not be providing your partner with all the support that she needs.
When planning how to record the birth of your baby, bear in mind that clear communication between you and your partner before the labour, and with the midwife and doctor once labour has started, is important to ensure that everyone’s wishes in this matter are respected
Can we take food into the delivery room?
Most hospitals are happy for you to bring your
own food and drink into the delivery room, although most are able to provide your partner with light refreshments should she want something It used
to be the case that women in labour weren’t allowed to eat or drink, but nowadays this is not the case. Research on the subject has concluded that it is perfectly safe for women to control their own food and drink intake during labour
However, hospitals don’t tend to provide food for birth partners, so it would be wise to pack plenty of snacks There is usually a canteen on the hospital campus somewhere but getting supplies from there may mean you are away from your partner for a time Alternatively, vending machines may be available.
What and how much your partner eats should be guided by her appetite. She should try, however, to stick to light, easy-to-digest foods that will give her plenty of energy, such as fruit juices, bread and honey, dried fruit, digestive biscuits, or bananas. Once labour is well established, it is likely that she won’t feel much like eating as her body needs to focus on delivering the baby,
I’ve heard that natural or water births are best for the baby. Should I ask my wife to have one?
Most childbirth experts would agree that a straightforward vaginal birth is the safest form of birth for both mother and baby. It is also generally considered safe to use water as a method of relieving the pain in uncomplicated labours (see p, 156) However, it is sometimes not possible to achieve a straightforward vaginal delivery due to certain situations that can arise during pregnancy, labour, and/or the actual birth If a problem with either the mother or baby occurs, the medical team will advise on the safest way of delivering the baby.
It is important that your partner thinks herself about the type of birth she would prefer and does not try something she is uncomfortable with. So it is not really your job to make decisions on behalf of your partner, and it’s also wise to be prepared to be flexible and to see how labour unfolds.
My wife doesn’t remember much about the birth. How much should I tell her?
It’s best to be honest about your memories of the labour and birth, even if this was a daunting experience for you both. You are likely to be the best person to explain to your partner about how she coped, and sharing your memories may help her to feel comfortable about expressing her own emotions about the birth, particularly if it was fairly traumatic. In this case an important part of your partner’s (and your) acceptance of what happened during the birth is to recall the sequence of events and to try to understand why things went the way they did This is especially important if you feel that your partner’s care didn’t go according to the birth plan. If this is the case, you may even want to talk to the midwife who cared for your partner during labour and birth about what happened. You can ask her to go through your partner’s notes with you both and explain exactly what happened. You can also ask for a postnatal ”briefing” to discuss the birth by contacting the head of midwifery at -your local unit.

Extra birth partners

Most hospitals are happy for women to have more than one birth partner, although some do set limits, depending on the amount of available space.
* It’s common for women to have their mum, sister, or close friend with them in addition to their partner.
* If labour is particularly long, having more than one birth partner can mean that they can relieve each other for breaks knowing that the mother has someone with her, * Some evidence suggests that having a female birth partner reduces the amount of pain relief and intervention needed.

Birth partners
The aim of a birth partner, whether this is your husband or life partner, a friend, family member, or hired doula, is to offer practical and emotional support to you throughout labour and birth.
How can birth partners help? As a birth partner’s role is to support you through labour and birth. it is important that they are aware of your wishes and are prepared to liaise on your behalf or keep track of events when you are not able to. It is important that they are knowledgeable about the stages of labour and have discussed with you in advance ways in which they might help, whether through practical support such as massage or helping you with labour positions, or by offering you encouragement and reassurance
What is a “doula”? Doula is a Greek word that means ”woman servant” or ”caregiver”. Nowadays, this refers to someone who gives emotional and practical support to a woman before, during, and after birth. The aim is for a woman to have a positive experience of
pregnancy, birth, and early motherhood This help and support is extended to the partner and other children Doulas can offer support in pregnancy which gives time for the family to get to know her, In labour and birth, she can help with massage, suggesting different positions, liaising with professionals, and giving emotional support. After birth, doulas can help with feeding and baby care, as well as care of the mother, Some do housework, prepare meals, and entertain older children.

Your role as go-between
One of the most important roles of a birth partner, whether you are the baby’s father or someone else chosen to be the birth partner, is to be aware of what is happening during the labour and birth and to liaise with the medical professionals on behalf of the mother if necessary There may be instances when you or your labouring partner don’t understand why a certain course of action is being taken, and your partner may be in too much pain, or too preoccupied with labour, to be able to ask.Your job is to talk to the midwife or doctor and gather information about what is happening. This means that you will both feel fully informed about what is happening in labour and will be able to participate in any decisions that have to be made about the labour or birth.

Remaining calm

Even though the birth of your baby is one of the most memorable and exciting events of your life, it can also be hard to witness your partner’s pain and to stay calm under pressure. * Being mentally prepared to see your partner experience considerable pain can mean that you are more likely to respond in a reassuring, rather than anxious, way. * Breathing and relaxation techniques can help you to stay calm and focused too. * If you do start to feel flustered, it may be wise to leave the room briefly, if there is an opportune moment, to refocus.

Twins and multiple births

We are expecting twins following IVF treatment. How will we cope?
Although finding out that you will be the parent of two babies rather than one can be a shock, the initial surprise will settle and you will soon start to get used to the idea There are many associations that offer information and support to parents of twins, as well as companies that make products for parents of two or more children (see p.310) Your midwife and obstetrician will offer information and support and may put you in touch with local multiple birth support groups You will also be invited for more regular antenatal appointments and scans than if you were having just one baby to keep an eye on the growth of your babies.
As with all multiple births, there are no additional financial benefits if you are having twins, although you may receive more of certain benefits that are dependent on income (see below).
We’re having triplets. Help! My wife is over the moon, but I feel numb. Where can we get advice?
As having triplets is relatively rare - only 149 sets
of triplets were born in the UK in 2006 - the majority of information and support for couples does relate to having twins. However, more and more research is being carried out into how to help and support parents having more than two children
Your midwife and obstetrician will be great sources of information and will be able to put -you in touch with other parents of multiple-birth children. There are also several organizations that offer support and information for parents having a multiple birth (see p.310). As you and your wife learn more about having triplets, your anxiety will hopefully start to ease
Will we receive any additional financial or practical support
as we’re having more than one baby?
Unfortunately, there are no financial benefits available to all parents having twins or multiple births. However, there are some benefits that are dependent on your income, some of which you may be able to claim per baby One of these is the Child Tax Credit, made up of three elements: a family element: an amount payable per child dependent on your joint income; and a baby element of £545 if you have cne or more children under a year old This credit is the focus of the Twins and Multiple Birth Association’s current campaign, as they feel strongly that the baby element should be paid per baby, so that a family with newborn triplets would be entitled to £1635. The Sure Start Maternity Grant, a payment of £500, is payable per baby so if you are entitled you would be able to claim £ 1500 for triplets. This must be claimed within three months of the birth so it is important to apply as soon as possible For practical support, it is worth finding out about Home Start schemes in your area. Home Start is a charity that provides trained volunteers to lend support at home. Each scheme is locally based, managed, and run by individual communities, supporting families in that community.
IDENTICAL TWINS: NON-IDENTICAL TWINS:
Does taking folic acid increase the incidence of twins?
There has been some debate and conflicting studies about whether taking folic acid pre-conceptually could increase the chance of having twins. A study in Sweden in the 1990s found a higher incidence of multiple births among women taking folic acid. However, this could be attributed to other factors, such as a greater number of women undergoing fertility treatment, which carries an increased probability of twins. Also, subsequent studies have refuted these findings; in 2003, the medical journal The Lancet reported on a large-scale study in China that found there was no significant difference in the number of women who had taken folic acid carrying twins.
Are all same-sex twins identical?
No. Whether or not twins are identical depends on how they were conceived, not on what sex they are (see above). While identical twins are obviously the same sex, non-identical same-sex twins are as similar or different as any other non-twin siblings.
How likely is it that our twins will be identical?
One in 80 pregnant women carries twins and one-third of twins are identical Although there are factors that make you more likely to have non-identical twins, such as a family history of twins or being over 35, having identical twins is not an inherited trait and there are no other factors that make this more likely.
Will I know before the birth if they are identical?
The term “zygosity determination” means finding out whether twins, triplets, or more are identical (monozygotic) or non-identical (dizygotic or fraternal). It is natural for parents to want to learn all about their babies, and with twins this includes their zygosity As well as for reasons of natural curiosity, knowing whether twins are identical can help parents to determine the chance of having a multiple pregnancy again, and also has implications on care during pregnancy, as identical twins, especially if they share a placenta, are higher risk, and so the pregnancy may be more closely monitored.
In two-thirds of cases, the placenta provides the answer as to whether twins are identical. If the babies have a single amniotic sac surrounded by one outer protective membrane, known as the chorion, they are monozygotic However, one-third of identical twins whose egg split early, before the placenta started to form, have two chorions with either a fused placenta, where two placentas grow together, or two separate placentas. These placentas are hard to distinguish from those of dizygotic twins
We don’t know if our twins are identical. Will it be obvious after the birth?
In a third of cases, twins are different sexes and therefore obviously non-identical In same-sex twins by the time the children are around two
years old their’ zygosity” is usually quite clear from their physical features Before this, there are many indications as to whether twins are identical such as the colour of their hair and eyes, the shape of their ears, the eruption and formation of teeth, the shape of the hands and feet, and the pattern of growth
If there is doubt as to whether twins are identical, the most accurate way to determine zygosity is by the DNA probe method when tiny amounts of DNA are collected with a swab from inside each twin’s mouth. A laboratory examines specific markers present in the DNA and 12 diagnostic targets are compared. Although non-identical twins may share five marker patterns by chance, monozygotic or identical, twins will have the same pattern for all 12 markers
Will I love one twin more than the other?
Although this can be a concern, it is more likely to be the case that rather than favour one child over the other, a parent gives more love and attention to the baby who needs it most at that particular time
It is also possible that the strain of having two new babies in the house may increase the likelihood of delayed bonding, although this can also happen_ the birth has been traumatic if the mother or indeed the father is exhausted: or if one baby has taken time to establish feeding, or is more fractious than the other This does not mean that bonding will not take
Am I likely to have a normal birth?
Although many women having twins have normal deliveries, the rate of Caesareans is increased with twin births With one baby the Caesarean rate is around 25 per cent in the UK; with twins, the rate is closer to 50-60 per cent which also means that 40-50 per cent of twins are delivered vaginally. Triplets and above are generally delivered by Caesarean in the UK and Europe Whether or riot twins are born vaginally depends on their position in the womb ~ whether one or both twins is head down (see p 133).
There may be an indication as to the type of birth in pregnancy as women with twins are usually scanned to check the position of the babies near to term, at around 27-34 weeks.
place over time, but if this is worrying you, you should mention it to your midwife or health visitor, as they may well be able to offer some helpful advice
In every family, there are bound to be ebbs and flows of love between parents and children, which is normal and not a cause for concern When a parent has two children born at different times, that parent may love one child differently to the other, but this does not mean that the love a parent has for one child is to the detriment of the other.
Will the side effects of pregnancy be much worse with a multiple pregnancy?
Although in some cases the side effects of pregnancy may be the same when you are expecting two or more babies, the likelihood is that many pregnancy symptoms will be exaggerated Symptoms such as morning sickness, fatigue or exhaustion, disturbed sleep and swollen hands and feet are often worse with a multiple pregnancy Unfortunately, women with multiple pregnancies also tend to suffer more from varicose veins (see p.86) In addition to these increased side effects, weight gain is greater and more rapid for mothers carrying more than one baby and the uterus measurement is often increased for the gestational age This extra weight and size caused by carrying two or more babies may also cause more constipation haemorrhoids (piles), urinary tract infections, and vaginal thrush infections.
Although there may be more exaggerated symptoms with a multiple pregnancy the majority of these problems can be monitored by your midwife or doctor, and they may be able to offer advice and treatment to ease these symptoms.
Will my weight gain be much greater than for someone who is having just one baby?
Mothers of twins or triplet pregnancies are likely to gain more weight than women having one baby. Indeed, in the first trimester, rapid weight gain may be an indicator of a multiple pregnancy The increased blood volume and size of the uterus, as
well as each baby’s weight, possibly two placentas, and the amniotic fluid for each baby, will continue this pattern of greater weight gain during pregnancy
Although on average a woman having a multiple pregnancy is likely to put on around I Okg (221b) or more than a woman having one baby, this is not double the weight gain If you are having twins, you should raise your calorie intake by only 500 calories per day in the last trimester, compared to 200 calories more for a single pregnancy
I’m only 24 weeks, expecting twins, and already I’ve got high blood pressure. What can I do?
Unfortunately high blood pressure is more likely to start, or worsen if you already have the condition, in a twin pregnancy as the rates of pregnancy-induced hypertension (PIH) and pre-eclampsia (see p 89) are increased in multiple pregnancies
There is little that can be done to prevent PIH General lifestyle changes, such as reducing your salt intake, avoiding alcohol and tobacco, taking gentle, regular exercise, and getting enough rest, are thought to help. You should also ensure that you attend all your antenatal appointments and contact your midwife or doctor if you experience headaches or visual disturbances such as flashing lights or there is reduced movement from your baby
What can go wrong if I have a vaginal delivery?
If both twins are head down, a vaginal birth is usually possible. Sometimes, the first twin may be head down and born vaginally, but the second twin may be breech Sometimes, the second twin will turn and be head down after the birth of the first twin, and you are then more likely to deliver both twins vaginally Studies suggest that there has been a significant increase in combined vaginal-Caesarean births of twins and a decrease in vaginal only births, which may be due to the fact that there is a greater willingness nowadays to allow women carrying twins to try for a vaginal delivery, which also increases the likelihood of this scenario. If you have a vaginal delivery, there is a greater chance of one or both twins having an assisted delivery by vacuum extraction or forceps (see p.202), either because one or both twins is positioned in a tricky -way, for example facing the mother’s back, or because the labour may be longer and weaker because of the amount of work involved in pushing two babies out, which means that the mother is therefore likely to be more tired and needing help at the end of labour.
Why might the doctors decide to deliver my twins by Caesarean section?
An elective Caesarean (see p.206) might be recommended for a twin delivery for several reasons, but ultimately it is your decision The optimum time for delivering any baby is at term (37-40 weeks’ gestation) and this remains the case for delivering twins as they may well be smaller than a singleton baby, having had to share your supply of nutrients However, if one or both of the babies are compromised, possibly due to twin-totwin transfusion syndrome (see p 134) or raised
blood pressure in pregnancy there may be a need to deliver the babies preterm.
Many units recommend a Caesarean for a breech baby where the baby is bottom down inside the womb, because there are more risks associated with a breech vaginal delivery In a twin pregnancy if the first baby is breech, this puts the second twin at risk too Also. if the first twin is breech and the second is head first (cephalic), a Caesarean is recommended due to the rare complication of ”locked” twins, when the babies’ chins get locked together
If both babies are head down and appear to be thriving, many maternity units will encourage a normal delivery Your doctor and midwife will discuss this with you nearer the delivery time.
Will my triplets need to be delivered before 40 weeks?
Yes, it is very likely that your triplets will be delivered before 40 weeks. Although most twins are born at around 37 weeks, which is considered to be a term pregnancy it is rare for triplets to reach term, and most are delivered at around 32-36 weeks’ gestation
As a woman’s body is designed to carry one infant at a time, carrying more than one increases the risks for both mother and babies, and the decision to deliver your triplets will be taken when one or more of the babies is not coping well. To improve the chances of a good outcome, get plenty of rest and eat a healthy diet (see p.50) Although premature deliveries do carry a risk to the infant, if the baby’s wellbeing is compromised an early delivery is necessary. If you go into premature labour, you may be given medication (see p.162) to try to stop labour for long enough to administer steroids, which will help to mature the babies’ lungs before delivery -as long as this does not put the babies at risk
How likely is it that my twins will have a lower than average birth weight?
Over 40 per cent of twins are born with a lower than average birth weight, which is mainly due to the fact that they are born earlier than singleton babies.
Do twins run out of room to turn in the womb?
It does tend to be the case that, in the third trimester, twins find a position and settle there at an earlier stage of pregnancy than if there was just one baby. Generally, with twin pregnancies there seems to be a lot less movement in presentation from about 32-34 weeks. However, how your twins are likely to be delivered depends largely on the direction that the twin who is lowest in the pelvis is facing. If this twin is head down, then a vaginal delivery should be possible and the second twin may be able to be gently coaxed into a favourable position, or may need to have an assisted delivery (see p 202)
I’ve been told that one baby isn’t developing as well as the other.What will the doctors do?
Although it is common for twins to grow at a different rate in the womb, if there is a significant difference in size, it may be that one baby is getting a greater proportion of the nutrients than the other. It is important to check that your babies are developing in line with their gestational age. It is not unusual for some babies to grow slowly and then accelerate later on, which is not a concern if it’s within the accepted range of growth for their gestational age. However, if your midwife or doctor is concerned about the development of one baby, they will probably refer you to a fetal medicine specialist: an obstetrician with additional training in caring for the unborn baby He or she may do blood tests and perform an ultrasound to assess the growth of each baby and investigate why there is a difference.
You may continue to have additional scans, known as growth scans, which will help the doctor to assess if one baby is small or growing slowly These usually start around 26-28 weeks and continue every 2-4
weeks until your babies are due to be delivered They look at a number of areas including the head, abdomen, and thigh bone measurements; the amount of amniotic fluid around the babies; the babies’ levels of activity; the blood flow in the umbilical cord; and the position of the placentas. Your doctor should
explain the findings of the scans and if there is a concern you will be closely monitored.
What is twin-to-twin transfusion syndrome?
This is a rare but serious condition that occurs only in identical twins who share a placenta. It is caused when there is an abnormal blood supply and a blood vessel directly connects the twins. One twin pumps blood around his own body and that of his twin and, as a result, he does not grow properly An early delivery is usually needed to save the smaller twin.
Am I likely to lose one or more of my babies?
There are increased risks for both mother and babies associated with multiple pregnancies and sadly there are occasions when one or more of the babies dies in the womb This occurs in around 2 5-5 per cent of twin pregnancies. In some circumstances, for example if there is a fetal abnormality in one twin such as a heart defect, the doctor may suggest that one or more of the babies is terminated in the very early weeks to allow the normal healthy development of the other baby or babies. However, many doctors believe that this is unnecessary as the procedure itself carries the risk of losing all the babies.
Although incredibly hard, this is ultimately your decision so you should spend time discussing the options with your doctor.
Unfortunately the death of a baby in a twin pregnancy can sometimes cause problems for the surviving twin, although the degree and type of problem depends on whether the twins were identical or non-identical. If the twins were identical, the doctors will want to assess whether it was a monochorionic pregnancy (in which the twins share the same placenta) or a dichorionic pregnancy (in which they have a different placenta). This is because, when the placenta is shared, there is a 30 per cent risk of death or a neurological problem to the surviving twin if the other dies, whereas if there are two placentas, there is a lower risk of 5-10 per cent, of death or disability occurring in the surviving twin.

The position of twins
Twins can lie in a variety of positions in the uterus and these positions can determine how your baby will be born One baby will always be lower than the other one, and this baby will be known as the first baby - it is closer to the birth canal and will
generally be born first.
What are the possible positions? Babies can be in the head down position (cephalic) or buttocks or feet first (breech). Occasionally a baby may be lying across you diagonally or horizontally (transverse) Twins can lie in any combination including: cephalic-cephalic, cephalic-breech, breech-breech, breech-cephalic These positions can change throughout the pregnancy, As with a singleton pregnancy (one baby), once the presenting baby nearer to the cervix goes down into the pelvis, it will stay in that position ready for birth.
Can I have a vaginal birth? When both babies are in a cephalic position you may be offered the chance to try for a normal labour and vaginal birth Sometimes, the first baby is cephalic and the second twin is in a breech position. If this is the case, your obstetrician may suggest that you have a Caesarean from the outset, or may suggest that you have a vaginal birth with the doctor assisting the birth of the second twin with forceps or ventouse (see p 202) if necessary You can certainly be party to these discussions and it’s important to share your feelings about the birth and birth choices. If the first baby is breech and the second baby is cephalic, then it is highly likely that your doctor will recommend that you have a Caesarean delivery. If both your babies are in the breech position you will almost certainly need a Caesarean, as is the case if both babies are lying across you in the transverse position

How are twins conceived?
Identical ”monozygotic” twins are produced when a single egg is fertilized by a single sperm, and the egg then splits into two. The babies may share the membranous, or amniotic, sac that surrounds them in the uterus Depending on when the egg splits, they may also share a placenta. Identical twins, therefore, are the same sex and look almost completely alike as they share the same genetic makeup. Non-identical, or ”dizygotic”, twins result when two eggs are fertilized by separate sperm at the same time and each therefore has its own individual genetic makeup Each fetus also has its own amniotic sac and placenta.

NOW YOU’RE PREGNANT
My test is positive
-what happens next

We’ve confirmed the pregnancy - when should we tell everyone?
This is down to personal preference. Many women wait until after their first scan at around 12 weeks before announcing their pregnancy This is mainly because the chances of miscarriage are at their highest during the first trimester. This avoids having to break the news if you do miscarry On the other hand, you may value others’ support Circumstances may dictate that you tell people earlier for example, if pregnancy symptoms are pronounced. Some couples find that waiting to share the news allows them to adapt to the idea of parenthood without constant ”advice” from others.

It’s what we wanted, but now I feel unsure - am I just scared?
Finding out you are pregnant, even if it was planned, can feel overwhelming and what you are feeling is perfectly normal. The hormonal changes you are experiencing can also give you highs and lows, which you have to handle along with the physical changes of pregnancy. Talking to your partner, a trusted family member or a friend, or confidentially to your midwife, about how you are feeling may help relieve your anxiety It’s important to acknowledge that pregnancy is a period of enormous change —physically, emotionally, socially, and financially — and it takes time to adjust to these changes.
I want the baby but my partner doesn’t - can he force me to have an abortion?
No, whether or not you proceed with the pregnancy is your decision. Your partner may simply need more time to adjust, but if he remains adamant that he doesn’t want the baby you need to decide about the future of your relationship.

My mum has strong opinions about pregnancy - how can I tell her I want to do it my way?
You could take your mother to an antenatal appointment so she can see how things have changed and your midwife can explain the reasoning behind your care. If she still interferes, have a frank talk Tell her that although you love her and know she wants to help, you want to make your own decisions. Hopefully she will come round to your point of view

We don’t feel ready financially -how will we cope?
There are ways to cut costs when preparing for your baby, Although some items should be new, such as mattresses and car seats, many things can be bought second-hand or passed on from friends and relatives, who may also wish to buy an ”item’ There is a range of monetary and health benefits that you may be entitled to (see pp.62-3). Also some families are eligible for a Sure Start Maternity Grant, a one-off payment that doesn’t have to be paid back, and child benefit is paid to all people bringing up children A child trust of E250 is also available for each baby born in the UK (see p 6 1). Your midwife can give you contact details for any benefits you are entitled to

I’m pregnant by IVF - is there anything different I should do?
Some experts believe that once pregnant, providing there are no other risk factors. you should be treated the same as unassisted low-risk pregnancies. Others believe that you are already a higher risk because
you needed help to conceive. Recent research suggests a link between IVF and growth problems, so regular scans may be sensible. Your hospital may have a policy for IVF pregnancies and you could speak to your midwife about consultant care.

wnen will I have my first antenatal appointment and how many can I expect?

Your first appointment with the midwife, known as the “booking appointment”, usually takes place between 8 and 12 weeks. This tends to be the longest one as its purpose is to obtain your medical history and carry out a series of checks (see p.74) so that your care during pregnancy and birth can be planned.For a first pregnancy with no complications, 10 appointments are usual, and for subsequent pregnancies, 7 visits are adequate. You can contact your midwife between appointments if you have any concerns or questions.

I got pregnant straight away - are we super-fertile?If you have intercourse around ovulation time and neither of you has fertility problems, you have a 25 per cent chance of conceiving. So I’m afraid this just indicates that intercourse was well timed!

My partner treats me as if I’m made of glass. How can I show him that this isn’t necessary?
Discuss your feelings and allow him to voice his concerns. Ask him to come to an appointment, as the more he understands, the better equipped he will be to provide more appropriate support when needed.