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Care
Boundaries
Birth is an immense change for the baby. Her whole physiology changes fundamentally and she experiences a completely new environment. The boundaries of the womb are left behind and she enters a ‘boundless’ world. In the womb, the child was able to grow harmoniously, protected from the world.
This reveals that everything that is developing requires a protective environment. With a newborn baby, and actually throughout childhood, this protective environment is constantly provided to establish firm foundations for later life. Unconsciously, the child is constantly reminded of the situation in the womb, which is related to an experience of security, safety, protection and fundamental confidence.
Warmth
The womb not only protects the embryo from the world; it also surrounds it with an even temperature of 37°C (98.6°F). A ‘warm environment’ is provided in the best possible way.
After birth, a child has to learn to maintain her own body temperature at a constant level, at first with the help of adults. She must interrelate the warm and cold parts of the body. This is achieved by means of a sensitive metabolic process which generates heat.
Normal growth and the development of the normal physical processes are also dependent on this metabolism. All the heat which the baby does not have to produce herself in order to maintain her temperature at the right level will benefit growth.
It takes the child a long time to regulate her own temperature; the normal difference of PC (2°F). between the body temperature during the night and the day is achieved by most children between their fifth and ninth months. Up to that time they are extremely dependent on the extra warmth provided in the form of good physical care, clothes, and hot water bottles used to warm the cradle before they are placed in it.
The ability to distinguish whether something is hot or cold is learnt during the initial period. The better this ability has been developed by providing sufficient warmth in childhood, the better the child can use it at a later age.
Cold feet are an important sign that extra attention should be devoted to regulating the child’s temperature. A baby should have warm feet, warm legs, a warm body and warm arms.
Special attention to warmth also has another significance. A warm environment helps the child to ‘warm up’ for life on earth. However, our motto is not ‘the warmer, the better,’ because always being dressed in too many clothes or being covered up can actually make a child either drowsy or very restless, and overheating can be very dangerous. Detailed research has revealed that there is a relationship between overheating and cot death. Duvets and synthetic materials can especially cause overheating. Therefore we certainly advise against using these.
In our view, the important thing is to learn to observe the needs of the child with regard to warmth, and to read the signs when more or less warmth needs to be provided in the form of clothes, bedding or ambient heating. The body temperature of the child is the most important thermometer, and in a healthy baby, this fluctuates around 37°C (98.6°F). You can learn to take the baby’s temperature with your hands so that you can literally feel how the child is regulating its own temperature. In the first week or two after birth, take the baby’s temperature every day, as well as feeling how warm she is. Then start testing yourself: feel how warm the baby is, then predict her temperature and check with the thermometer for a few days. If your predictions are correct, you will only have to take the baby’s temperature when you are doubtful or if she is sick.
Impressions
Everything we do, feel and think around the child is assimilated by the child. She is still completely open and has a boundless trust in the environment. The buffer which
we have between ourselves and the world as adults is formed by recognising and understanding that world. A small child is not yet able to do this. Up to about the third year, the child identifies with the environment in which she is living in a very natural way. This is followed by a stage in which thinking gradually assumes set patterns, and the child leans to distinguish herself from the outside world. For the first time, she makes a distinction between her own individuality and the world which is perceived. In this light it is understandable that first memories only go back to the third year, and there are no, or very few, memories before this.
The child is one big sensory organ. Up to the third year, all impressions are assimilated in an uninhibited way and disappear into the subconscious. There they are combined with other physical processes, and a sort of print is made; it is as though the child models the influences of the environment in its own `clay.’ Therefore, it is important that we are aware of what ‘goes into’ the child — also for later on.
Example. A child in a boat on the water, experiences the swell, feels the sunlight on her skin and the wind in her hair, smells the odour of water and fish, is taking in healthy impressions which build up the whole organism. The situation is quite different for a child at a department store who is placed in a rotating ship, which goes round and round when a coin is placed in the machine. The child will enjoy both these experiences, but they affect the organism in significantly different ways. The ‘boat on the water’ situation sounds idyllic; this is usually a vacation experience. However, there are also impressions closer to home, which can be constructive and have the above-mentioned character
Positive, constructive impressions are those impressions in which the natural origin of materials, sounds etc, can be perceived by the child. For hearing, these are the sounds of people and animals, and natural sounds such as the rustling of the wind. For sight, they are natural colours. For the sense of touch, they are materials such as wool, cotton, silk, wood, sand and water.
Many domestic appliances such as vacuum cleaners, washing machines, radio, television and plastic toys were created as a result of human technical ingenuity. For children, these are actually an abstraction, lacking in natural connection.
Radio, television and plastic toys are things you can consciously choose to have or not to have in a small child’s immediate environment. With household appliances, you can take care to minimize the sound in the baby’s immediate environment. So-called ‘white noise’
from household appliances is not a good idea for the young child as it blocks out normal impressions. Autistic children can also become obsessed by white noise. Playing a lyre, humming or singing are better background sounds for the child.
Simple actions such as washing hands, or sweeping up with a dustpan and brush in the child’s presence show how things are done. These actions are enjoyable and you can invite children to imitate them.
The feelings of people around the child also have an effect. It is obvious that a child will thrive best in a genuine atmosphere of joy and warmth. This has a positive effect. But there is not a parent in the world that is always cheerful and relaxed at every moment of the day (and night). It is worth aiming to achieve these qualities, but at times when you do not succeed, you must take them for what they are — also real human emotions. In every family there are days when everything goes pear-shaped and the ideal image of a happy family seems a long way off. Humour is always a good remedy. It can be a relief if you can laugh about yourself and the situation.
The needs which were mentioned above — that is, the need for boundaries, warmth and positive impressions — make great demands on the environment. It means that parents must have clear insight and a good level of empathy to get things right: too cold or too warm, too many im-pressions or too quiet, well-protected or not enough room to breathe?
From this point of view, we would like to discuss a number of practical aspects of childcare.
Clothes
Clothes are like a second skin, which support the functions of the skin. The skin helps to regulate body temperature and protects us from infections. In addition, the skin is a sensory organ with which we perceive the environment. These three functions are most effectively supported with clothes made of wool, silk, cotton or hemp. These fibres are preferable as they provide sense impressions from a natural source via the skin, which help the child to build up its body. Other fibres are more alien, and even viscose, which is made from cotton or wood, is processed quite strongly, in a way which is now known to be quite polluting.
Wool
Sheep’s wool protects the sheep from heat and cold, rain and toxic waste. The curls trap the warm air around the sheep’s skin. The wool keeps out the rain, and waste products are absorbed and emitted through the wool via perspiration.
All these qualities are found in woollen clothes. The warmth of the wool protects the child from cooling down too quickly and supports her unstable heat regulation system which cannot yet retain body heat.
Its absorbent capacity (30 to 40%) ensures that the child remains comfortably dry. The quality of the wool depends on the age of the sheep, the animal’s diet and health, as well as the way in which the wool was turned into clothing.
Finely knitted woollen vests are available, which forma soft, flexible outer skin. Woollen jumpers and cardigans should be loose fitting so that they are easy to put on and take off. Woollen pants are wonderful to use over cotton nappies. They can be knitted easily, preferably from slightly greasy sheep’s wool, and are ideal for absorbing moisture and neutralizing the waste products in urine.
A woollen shawl will keep the baby warm when there are fluctuations in temperature. Woollen socks will also keep the feet nice and warm. Furthermore, wool does not attract dirt, and therefore woollen clothes do not have to washed as often as cotton clothes, though they do have to be aired regularly.
Silk
The silkworm spins its cocoon of silk thread, in which the worm is sealed off from any negative external influences. The silk is made under the influence of sunlight — at sunset, the silkworm stops spinning, and at sunrise, it starts work again.
If you use silk in clothes, you will feel its enclosing qualities. Furthermore, silk can absorb 30% of its weight in moisture without feeling damp. In addition, silk retains heat when it is cold and releases heat when it is warm. That is why silk is worn especially in summer. Silk and, in particular, knitted silk is an excellent basic material for vests, but it is advisable to put a woollen vest over the silk vest as well.
Children who are sensitive to wool against the skin, and children who are very sensitive to impressions and consequently become restless, will benefit from wearing a silk vest.
Cotton
Cotton is widely used nowadays for children’s clothes, especially as this material can be washed so easily in the washing machine. At the same time, it should be said that it actually has to be washed often because it attracts dirt easily. Cotton can absorb 20% of its own weight in moisture.
As cotton cannot absorb heat, this passes easily through the material to the outside air. Consequently, this material is not the best choice for a child’s underclothes throughout the year. Furthermore, the way in which cotton is grown is not particularly environmentally friendly, and chemical products are often used in the treatment of the material. Fortunately, there are several eco-cotton projects which now promote its environmentally-friendly cultivation and processing, and eco-cotton is becoming increasingly available in shops and over the internet.
We suggest dressing the baby in at least two layers of clothing, covering the whole body, including the arms, legs and feet. This produces a layer of air between the two layers which retains heat. In a temperate climate, a long-sleeved woollen vest — or a vest of wool and silk — can be worn for most of the year.
In practice, we regularly find that babies are not dressed warmly enough, and they are often restless and troubled by stomach cramps, or they are constantly crying. The simple remedy of dressing the child more warmly, in better fitting clothes, will do wonders for this.
Bonnets
Unfortunately, bonnets are no longer in fashion. In comparison with the rest of their bodies, little babies often have an enormous — and sometimes rather bald — head. The head is constantly losing heat, which should really be retained for the development of the brain and organs. On the one hand, a silk bonnet will retain the baby’s heat, and oil the other hand, it protects the head and the open fontanel from a restless environment. It is important for the forehead to be free, because this part of the body acts as a sort of thermostat for regulating body heat. Where it is often windy, it may also be necessary for the baby to wear a second bonnet made of wool. There are wonderful bonnets on sale, or they can be knitted in material which is so soft that it is like a second skin.

Bonnets can be removed when the child is in the cot as long as the baby is well protected.
Wraps and swaddling
Because of the need for boundaries, it is understandable why many babies, as well as older children, calm down and fall asleep easily when they are firmly tucked in, or if they are wrapped up or swaddled.
Usually, babies have a flannel sheet wrapped around them, during the postnatal period, but this often disappears, to be replaced by a babygro/sleepsuit. We recommend continning to use a swaddling cloth and wrapping it firmly around the babygro/sleepsuit before putting the baby to bed (see illustration). As the baby still lies with its arms and legs bent, it should be swaddled in this position, to increase the sense of security. The baby can now relax and will fall asleep warm and snug. However, you must make sure that the baby is not wrapped up too warmly (see p.25).
The woollen wrap can serve as a blanket outside the cot for when the baby is fed. When the woollen cloth is no longer sufficient, use a (woollen) baby sleeping bag for in bed.

Children who remain restless and have difficulty falling asleep despite being wrapped up, as well as babies who do not establish a good rhythm of drinking/sleeping, may benefit from the old-fashioned method of swaddling in which the arms are also wrapped up so that the child cannot flail about. Flailing is often a response to crying, cramps or fright, but because it is involuntary, it can cause new restlessness. Swaddling can help to break this vicious circle.
Many parents find it difficult to restrict their baby in this way; in our age of boundless freedom, it is not so easily accepted. However, parents usually overcome their resistance when they see how the baby responds to swaddling. For most babies, it results in a much greater sense of peace, and consequently they sleep well and establish a pattern of sleeping and feeding every few hours. Nowadays, two methods of swaddling are recommended: either ready-made swaddling blankets or swaddling wraps, or using the method shown at the back of this book (see p.108). (See also Blom, Crying and Restlessness in Babies.)
The cradle
The cradle is an important successor of the smallest home in which the baby lived before birth. You can opt for a basket cradle (Moses basket), a wooden (rocking) cradle or
a cot. For safety considerations, the baby’s feet should always be placed at the end of a cot, with its head halfway down. Tuck in the blanket in such a way that the head is free and the shoulders are covered. A hood or canopy over the cradle or cot makes the space more intimate, so that the child is not distracted by the environment and can sleep more peacefully.
For the canopy, it is best to use plain materials in soft colours. A canopy made of light blue silk combined with a layer of pink silk gives a very subtle calming colour.
The mattress must be absolutely flat, providing good support, and it must be well-ventilated and warm. Our preference is for a mattress of kapok, cotton or another natural material. A sheep’s fleece can be placed on the mattress. The fleece is soft and gives a beneficial warmth so that the newborn baby is protected from cooling down too quickly. Make sure that the fleece is not too large and lies on the mattress without any folds. Cover the fleece with a sheet. The bedding should be made of cotton and wool. Do not use synthetic materials. The sheets and blankets should be big enough to tuck the baby in quite firmly. The fleece and the mattress should be regularly aired. If you use a woollen wrap there are likely to be patches of damp under the mattress. If necessary, use a waterproof sheet. There are cotton sheets available that are impregnated with rubber and do not feel clammy. We do not recommend the use of duvets, even those made of wool, because of the risk of suffocation.
If the cradle is next to the window, watch out for overheating in the sun. A baby can easily become too hot in a heated room when the sun shines through the window.
The playpen
Up to the age of four months, it is not really necessary to have a playpen. Nevertheless, when the baby is downstairs, it is a good idea to have a safe place to place it. A wicker basket with a soft cover, or the bed of a pram, are quite suitable.
We do not recommend the frequent use of a baby seat or recliner, as the baby is stimulated by the ac-
tion of sitting in an upright position at a stage when he is still physically immature. The baby can only lie passively in a baby seat, which does not matter for a short period, but is harmful to physical development in the long term.
This objection does not apply so much to the use of a recliner, but there are other objections; when the baby discovers that he can bounce the recliner with one leg, he often finds it difficult to stop, even when he gets tired of the mechanical movement.
When the baby starts to reach out for things and becomes more active in its motor development, it is time for a playpen. Quite apart from the fact that this provides a safe place for the child to learn to sit and stand, it is often a favourite place for being quiet and for playing undisturbed. A cloth cover, like a curtain, along three sides of the playpen will increase the sense of security, and is not to be confused with cot bumpers, which are not recommended as they pose a suffocation risk for the young child. For motor development, it is important that the floor of the playpen is sturdy and not too smooth (for example, a cloth folded double), so that the child can roll over and can put pressure on it.
Walkers and baby bouncers
We emphatically advise against the use of walkers and baby bouncers. These are ‘aids’ which speed up the child’s motor development in an unnatural way. Children certainly like to use these things — especially if they can move around in them quickly — and want to use them more and more. However, it is much better for a child to learn to stand and walk at his own pace. In this sense, walkers and baby bouncers do not help healthy development in any way, and are actually more of a deterrent to healthy development.
Prams and baby carriers (slings)
The pram can be a safe and sheltered place in which the baby can sleep outside during the first few months. For walking, a baby carrier is often a better alternative because it means
that the baby moves in time with the pace at which the adult is walking, and is not shaken about so much as in a pram, as it goes up and down the pavement. The child is carried in a natural position in a baby carrier (sling), (see the illustration on p. 106).
However, at this point a warning should be given. It has been shown that babies can become too hot and stuffy, particularly if carried under a coat. Unfortunately, there are even a few cases, which resulted in a baby’s death. We recommend that you keep a careful eye on a baby in a baby carrier, and if possible carry it on top of a coat rather than underneath, with, if necessary, a woollen cloth around the baby.
The disadvantage of a baby carrier in which the baby is in a vertical position is that the baby did not take up this position itself. In this sense, the baby carrier is not for babies until they reach the age of nine months. A sling is preferable, as the whole back and head are supported, although it might be tiring for the mother to carry.
When a baby has reached the age for a pram, the best model is one in which the baby faces the parent. In this way, the baby constantly has the comforting face of its father or mother in front of it, and can find out from that face what is happening in the big wide world. A traditional pram has the advantage that the child lies flat, as at this age the baby’s head is still relatively heavy and the neck cannot keep the head in a stable position. We recommend a buggy only from the age when the child is able to sit unassisted.

General Points of View
In this section we describe a number of points of view which serve as a guideline for the way we view, and relate to, young children.
The child’s development and care, sleeping and waking, play and toys, safety and feeding are subjects which will be tackled in this section in terms of content. A practical approach to these subjects can be found under the advice for every stage (see Chapters 3-6).
The child’s development
From the moment the child is born, the parents have the important task of monitoring his or her development. This gives rise to many questions. How can we best prepare for the child’s future? Should we, or should we not, familiarize the child with elements of adult life at an early stage, so that she will be prepared for this later on? The answers to these questions will depend on your view of the child’s developmental stages.
We proceed on the assumption that the more successfully a child is able to fully develop at a particular stage, the more harmonious the development will be. This also applies for future development.
Fora baby and young child, this means that we must create the conditions in which a baby can most successfully be a baby, and a young child can most successfully be a young child.
The first developmental stage after birth is strongly centred on the child’s physical and motor development. Growth is quite exceptional during the first year of life, and is still rather like the growth of the embryo. The development and growth, which takes place outside the womb in humans, takes place completely inside the womb in other mammals. When the child is one year old, the development has reached a level comparable to the birth level of other mammals.
For the baby’s development, it is good if the conditions after birth are still quite similar to the situation in the womb. This particularly concerns the protective cocoon around the child. Warmth, a sense of security and some protection against environmental influences promote the baby’s health. It is extremely important for the baby’s physical development for her to have physical contact — rocking, cuddling or simply holding the baby in your arms. Children who lack this physical contact do not develop well, even if they have ‘the best feeding.’ These babies immediately start to grow again when attention and care is devoted to physical contact. Satisfying the need for physical contact gives the child a basis for the rest of his or her life.
Nevertheless, in humans, a good environment alone does not guarantee development. Every person has his own rate of development and his own way of developing. For example, there are babies who develop motor skills very quickly, sit up at an early stage, roll over, stand and walk. On the other hand, other children appear to ’stand still’ in their development fora long time, then seem to miss out a few stages and can suddenly walk, even though they never crawled. Some children start to develop speech very early, while others remain unintelligible for a long time.
It is important to be aware of a child’s own way of developing. There may be a tendency to a certain one-sidedness. This sort of one-sidedness — for example, the slow development of speech — can be regarded as the child’s own way of developing. It is only when this one-sidedness is particularly strong that it may be seen as a developmental disorder.
Thus, the first year of the child’s development can be seen as a continuation of the embryonic stage.
During this first year of life, the body matures to the extent that the child becomes able to control it for herself. A one-year-old child can stand and go where she likes and move about freely in space. It is as though she is taking charge of her own physical body. This stage of development depends on healthy physical growth and development. Illness and malnutrition will immediately delay the process. Development at this stage is mainly influenced by the physical organism and the care of this organism.
The basis for the later development of speech is laid during the first year of life. Talk to, and with, the baby, and play with her. She sees the gestures which accompany words, and hears the songs. All this contributes to the child becoming increasingly familiar with human language. The clearest sign of this is contented baby talk by the end of the first year of life.
After the first year, the child depends on being able to imitate what she has heard. She will start to copy the words herself, first words of one syllable and then words of several syllables. She then begins to combine words, and finally produces short sentences. In this way, the child enters a second area in which she can move about freely — the field of language. By mastering speech and language, the child takes part in social life in her own way, and becomes able to express herself through the spoken word.

The next stage of development is the time at which the child starts to say ‘U Prior to that stage the child called herself by her own name. This can be seen as an expression of the fact that the child was not yet deeply connected with her own body; thus in a sense the child saw herself from outside, as other people see her.
When she becomes more closely connected with her own body, the first, still primitive, sense of self-consciousness emerges and the child experiences a sense of self; she starts to say ‘F and experiences herself as a centre. As a result of this process, the child may also feel cut off from the world around her.
By the age of three or four, the child has gone through a sort of first cycle of development. By learning to stand and walk, she has achieved a certain degree of freedom in space. By learning to speak and understand, she can develop socially and communicate with others. With the deeper connection of the self and the body, self-consciousness emerges for the first time, and this is expressed when the child uses the word ‘I’ to talk about herself.
Learning to use language independently is an important psychological development, as is developing a sense of individuality. However, healthy physical development is always a prerequisite for this. Motor development is particularly important for the development of psychological functions later on. Playing
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with bricks, simple ball games, finger games, circle games — in short, everything we do with the physical organism of the child as the point of contact — will have a positive influence on development.
The behaviour of the people in the child’s direct environment is very important for development. A small child learns and develops by imitating what she sees, hears, feels and so on. In this way the child learns to walk, speak and think, and during this first learning process carefully assimilates all the details — particularly during the first three years. This once again underlines the importance of being conscious of our own behaviour as well as the material environment of the child (see also Impressions, p.25).
Admittedly, the aspects of child development described here are very general, but they can still provide a direction for the way in which we behave with the child. The care for the physical processes of growth and development are of central importance. We can measure and weigh growth, while we can assess development from the development of the motor system, the mastery of language, and the birth of the ’self’ when the child starts to say ‘F.
Sleeping and waking
During the course of life a person’s need for sleep undergoes great changes. A newborn baby often sleeps for between eighteen and twenty hours out of every twenty-four. A one-year-old can sleep for fourteen hours, while an adult needs between six and eight hours of sleep. Therefore, in the first year of life, the child should spend a great deal of the time asleep.
We have seen that there are two important things in this first year — growth (a baby’s weight triples in the first year) and development. Growth takes place particularly during sleep, while development is stimulated during the waking hours. The various organs ‘learn’ to operate in a sense, with the use of the body during, the daytime (by eating, moving, etc.). What the organs ‘learn’ during the day continues to have an effect while the baby sleeps, and is assimilated in the body’s growth activity.
A one-sided predominance of growth and excessive stimulation to develop both have a negative effect. There should be a healthy balance between the two processes; an alternation between waking and sleeping which is suitable for each stage. When the child is about one year old, this balance will have become established in the operation of the organs, in a particular day/night rhythm — the biological clock.
For good health and for the child to be able to make use of his physical capabilities properly, it is essential for this day/night rhythm to become well established. Therefore, it is literally of vital importance for a small child to establish a steady pattern during the day with regard to sleeping, eating and waking.

A steady pattern of set times in the life of a child promotes growth and development and helps to establish a healthy rhythm of sleeping and waking. Too much stimulation during the day may prevent the child from falling asleep; however, a completely unstimulating environment, without healthy challenges for the child, can also lead to problems with sleep because the child is not sufficiently tired. A healthy routine in the day, alternating challenges and periods of quiet, being together and being alone, can help to correct sleeping problems. Rituals for going to sleep can also be helpful — rocking, singing lullabies, the use of musical boxes or a prayer for the child are methods used by many families.
Sleeping well means that the child must be able to surrender and ‘let go.’ This is not as easy for some children as for others. It is helpful to give the child a sense of security, for example, in the enclosed space of the cradle (possibly with a hood) or lying against the mother. Warmth promotes a sense of comfort and relaxation; a bonnet, a sleeping bag, some drops of lavender water on the pillow, or a hot water bottle can sometimes help babies who find it difficult to fall asleep. Hot water bottles should always be removed before the baby is placed in the warm cradle. A light silk bonnet is appropriate for indoor use, but be aware of the risk of overheating. Wrapping the child up firmly pro-
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vides a sense of security as well as a feeling of warmth.
However, there are babies who assimilate everything that happens around them so greedily that they actively seem to suppress their feelings of tiredness and the need for sleep. The more stimulation they are given, the hungrier they seen to be. They are unable to set their own boundaries. Increasingly, we see babies who spend many hours of the day — and sometimes the night —awake, constantly asking for attention from the environment. For these children, the parents must learn to see when they show signs of being sleepy. The fact that this is quite an art is clear from the many stories told about this problem. If you miss the right moment, the child appears to go past his sleepiness and will keep going for many hours. Signs of sleepiness are restlessness or agitation, looking away, rubbing the eyes and face, warm hands and red ears, grizzling and crying. By responding to these signs of sleep immediately and consistently, by placing the baby in his cot, it is possible to create a healthy need for sleep. By not responding straightaway every time the baby cries, he will learn to resolve minor discomfort for himself. It is important to realize that any attention wakes the baby up. All the extra attention and special behaviour associated with going to sleep often achieve quite the opposite of what the parents hope to achieve.

First Hours After Birth. FAQ.

Will they clean up my baby first?
This is something to discuss with your midwife before the birth. She will ask your preferences
for whether to deliver your baby straight on to your tummy or, as some women prefer, on to the bed to be cleaned and dried before being handed to you.
When will my baby be weighed?
Your baby will have a head-to-toe check, be weighed, and have his head circumference and body length measured This may be done very quickly after the birth, but more usually it is done once you have had the opportunity to cuddle your baby.
What is vernix?
Most babies born before 40 weeks have some vernix, a white waxy substance, on their skin that protects them while they are in the amniotic fluid. After 40 weeks this begins to disappear. If it is present after birth, it doesn’t need to be wiped off as it will gradually be absorbed into the skin.
How will the cord be cut?
Once your baby is born, the usual practice is to place a plastic cord clamp on the cord about lcm (i3 in) away from the baby’s tummy, and then to clamp another about 3cm (I in) away from the
first cord clamp using artery forceps; the cord in between the clamps is then cut using cord scissors. Recently there has been some debate about the best timing for clamping and cutting the cord. The most recent research suggests that delaying the clamping of the cord for 2-3 minutes is most beneficial for the baby. This is because the cord continues to pulsate for several minutes after the birth and so delaying cutting it allows more blood to pass from the placenta to the baby This boosts the baby’s oxygen supply and blood volume, which in turn raises iron levels and reduces the risk of anaemia developing.
Although some maternity units are changing their policies in line with this research, most are continuing with the practice of clamping and cutting immediately If you have a preference as to the timing of clamping and cutting the cord, you can include this in your birth plan If your birth partner would like to be involved in cutting the cord with the midwife, discuss this prior to the birth; this should be possible, providing all is well at the delivery.
Do all newborn babies look the same?
Babies vary in appearance at birth and a variety of factors play a part. Sometimes parents are surprised that instead of a soft-skinned baby they are faced with a red-faced,  wet, screaming individual. Some aspects of your baby’s appearance may be temporary and related to the birth or your baby adapting to life in the outside world, such as the shape of his head, which may have been affected by the birth, or the colour of his skin (see p.219). If your baby is born late, at around 42 weeks, he may have drier, flakier skin than babies born around 40 weeks if he is born prematurely, he may still be covered in the fine downy hair called lanugo, which will gradually disappear. Also the type of delivery can affect the way your baby looks after birth. If you have a Caesarean, your baby is less likely to have a distorted or ‘’squashed” appearance to his head as he has not had to squeeze through the birth canal.
I’ve heard that sometimes the genitals are quite swollen. Why is this?
The hormones produced by your body in pregnancy namely oestrogen and progesterone, cross the placenta and so are present in the baby during pregnancy and immediately after the birth. One of the side effects of these hormones can be swollen genitals in both newborn boys and girls In girls, the swelling can be accompanied by a reddening of the skin and some baby girls may have a vaginal discharge. As the hormone levels drop, the discharge may include a small amount of blood, all of which is normal. Hormone levels can also cause swelling of the breasts in both boys and girls. After the birth, any swelling and discharge settles quite quickly as the baby does not produce hormones and levels drop to zero in the first week
Will he be wrinkly?
A newborn baby’s appearance changes over the first hours and days of life Immediately
after birth, babies tend to have a wrinkly appearance because they have been in a bag of fluid for the last nine months, much the same as we get if we stay in the bath for too long As their skin adapts to being in the outside world, the wrinkles disappear If a baby is very overdue, the skin can appear quite dry and in most cases will flake off In this situation, it will also appear wrinkly due to a lack of moisture Once a newborn baby’s skin starts to flake, there is nothing that can be done to stop it, and you should not use
any moisturizing products to try to prevent it. Rest assured that the layer of skin underneath will be fine.
My baby’s face is covered in spots. Will they go?
Newborn babies have very sensitive skin. They have been protected in a safe environment in pregnancy and following the birth their skin needs to adjust to the outside world That is why rashes and spots may occur. The most common rash in newborns is called erythema toxicum neonatorum, which occurs in around 50 per cent of newborn babies and is usually noticeable around 1-5 days after the birth This consists of small red spots that appear and disappear all over the skin apart from on the palms continuing with the practice of
clamping and cutting immediately If you have a preference as to the timing of clamping and cutting the cord, you can include this in your birth plan If your birth partner would like to be involved in cutting the cord with the midwife, discuss this prior to the birth; this should be possible, providing all is well at the delivery
Do all newborn babies look the same?
Babies vary in appearance at birth and a variety of factors play a part. Sometimes parents are surprised that instead of a soft-skinned baby they are faced with a red-faced, wet, screaming individual. Some aspects of your baby’s appearance may be temporary and related to the birth or your baby adapting to life in the outside world, such as the shape of his head, which may have been affected by the birth, or the colour of his skin (see p.219). If your baby is born late, at around 42 weeks, he may have drier, flakier skin than babies born around 40 weeks, if he is born prematurely, he may still be covered in the fine downy hair called lanugo, which will gradually disappear. Also the type of delivery can affect the way your baby looks after birth. If you have a Caesarean, your baby is less likely to have a distorted or ‘’squashed” appearance to his head as he has
not had to squeeze through the birth canal.
I’ve heard that sometimes the genitals are quite swollen. Why is this?
The hormones produced by your body in pregnancy namely oestrogen and progesterone, cross the placenta and so are present in the baby during pregnancy and immediately after the birth. One of the side effects of these hormones can be swollen genitals in both newborn boys and girls In girls, the swelling can be accompanied by a reddening of the skin and some baby girls may have a vaginal discharge. As the hormone levels drop, the discharge may include a small amount of blood, all of which is normal. Hormone levels can also cause swelling of the breasts in both boys and girls After the birth, and swelling and discharge settles quite quickly as the baby does not produce hormones and levels drop to zero in the first week.
Will he be wrinkly?
A newborn baby’s appearance changes over the first hours and days of life. Immediately
after birth, babies tend to have a wrinkly appearance because they have been in a bag of fluid for the last nine months, much the same as we get if we stay in the bath for too
long As their skin adapts to being in the outside world, the wrinkles disappear If a baby is very overdue, the skin can appear quite dry and in most cases will flake off In this
situation, it will also appear wrinkly due to a lack of moisture. Once a newborn baby’s skin starts to flake, there is nothing that can be done to stop it, and you should not
use any moisturizing products to try to prevent it. Rest assured that the layer of skin underneath will be fine.
My baby’s face is covered in spots. Will they go?
Newborn babies have very sensitive skin. They have been protected in a safe environment in pregnancy and following the birth their skin needs to adjust to the outside world.
That is why rashes and spots may occur. The most common rash in newborns is called erythema toxicum neonatofurn, which occurs in around 50 per cent of newborn babies and is
usually noticeable around 1-5 days after the birth This consists of small red spots that appear and disappear all over the skin apart from on the palms.

Your newborn’s appearance
Your baby’s appearance straight after the birth may not be what you expected. Straight after the birth, the skin can look dark red or purple, but quickly changes to a lighter
colour as he begins to breathe air through his lungs for the first time His hands and feet may look a little blue for the first 24-48 hours; this is normal, but blue-tinged skin
elsewhere at this time is0 normal and should be assessed. A baby’s head shape sometimes concerns parents; as the baby passes through the birth canal, the bones of the skull are
designed to overlap, which means that after the birth the head can looked quite pointed However, this resolves within 24 hours. Sometimes there is bruising on the scalp due to
the baby’s position in labour that tends to disappear in the first week
of the hands and soles of the feet. It isn’t harmful and it doesn’t indicate an infection. It can’t be passed on to others and it usually disappears within two weeks without any
treatment Milla is another noticeable skin change occurring in about 40 per cent of newborn babies. These are pin-head-sized white spots, which usually appear over the nose and
cheeks, but can also occur on other parts of the face. These are blocked-off pores containing some sebum (an oily substance produced by the skin) and, again, they disappear
without treatment.
My baby has a big red strawberry mark on his head. Will it be there for ever?
Birth marks are fairly common and most disappear in the first few years of life Strawberry birth marks start as a red dot and tend to grow in size for about a year, but usually  disappear by five years. Other
marks include pink patches of skin, called stork patches, and Mongolian blue spots, which are patches of skin with a bluish tinge that occur on babies of Afro-Caribbean or Asian descent. They
usually occur at the bottom of the back but
may extend over the bottom and are due to the concentration of pigment cells in the slsjn; they often disappear by three to four years of age. Port-wine stains are larger red
marks that tend to occur on the face and neck. These birth marks are permanent, so you may want to talk to a skin specialist about whether there are treatments to reduce them.
Should I be careful about using products on my baby’s skin?
Yes, you do need to exercise caution. As a baby’s skin is very sensitive, it can react to any chemicals that it comes into contact with, including some baby bath products The
very best option is to use nothing other than plain water on a baby’s skin until he is at least a month old. and to continue to take care over which products you use in the following months
You can use oils to massage your baby Pure vegetable oil or olive oil is best; avoid aromatherapy or mineral oils, which may be harmful to a baby’s skin, and nut-based oils, as
there is a possible link between these and the development of nut allergies.

Newborn tests and checks
Between 6 and 72 hours after the birth, your baby will receive a detailed examination from a doctor or midwife The aim of this is to detect any abnormalities in a baby that may
not have been picked up by the antenatal scans during pregnancy If you need to see a specialist as a result of these tests, an appointment will be made at a later date Other
tests are carried out in the couple of weeks following the birth, usually in your home by the midwife or health visitor,
The first examination During this initial examination your baby will be weighed and measured and his heart and lungs will be listened to using a stethoscope The roof of his
mouth will be checked to make sure that there is no cleft, or split, in his palate and his eyes will also be examined His limbs will be checked to ensure that they match in
How your baby is checked
length, and that his feet are properly aligned with no sign of clubfoot Your baby’s tummy will
be felt to check that the internal organs are the right size and in the right place. and the pulses in the groin will also be checked The genitals will be examined, and the
spine will be checked to make sure that all of the vertebrae are in place His hip joints will also be looked at to ensure that these are not dislocated and not ”clicky”, which
could lead to instability later on. Your baby’s reflexes will also be checked (see p.223).
The newborn blood spot test This is most commonly referred to as the Guthrie or heel-prick test. It is usually the next check that your baby will have, and it takes place
between days 5 and 7 after the birth. This newborn blood spot screening test is carried out to identify babies who may have
rare, but potentially serious, conditions and may consequently need treatment at some stage
Conditions that are identified Blood spot tests screen babies for phenylketonuria (PKU), a rare metabolic condition: congenital hypothyroidism; cystic fibrosis; sickle cell
disorders, which can lead to severe anaemia and other serious health problems.
PKU is an inherited condition in which babies are unable to process a substance in their food called phenylalanine. Early treatment involves a special diet, which can prevent
severe disability If screening has shown that your baby suffers from congenital hypothyroidism, early treatment will involve thyroxine tablets, which can prevent permanent
physical and mental disability In some areas of the UK, babies are also screened for cystic fibrosis.
How the blood test is done The blood test involves the side of your baby’s heel being pricked and four drops of blood being carefully placed on a special card. The test is often
done while your baby is feeding, as this makes it less painful or alarming for your baby You can
get the results from your doctor, although you will be contacted if anything is detected. Sometimes further testing is needed. Most babies screened will not have any of these
conditions, but, for those who do, early treatment can be vital to ensure long-term health
Your baby’s hearing test A hearing test will be carried out when your baby is around 2-3 days old Around 1 or 2 babies in every 1,000 will have some degree of hearing loss, and
90 per cent of these are born to parents without hearing problems themselves. The hearing test involves one of two checks. For the first, the specialist will put a small
earpiece with a microphone next to your baby’s ears, and, for the second test, headphones are placed over your baby’s head. Clicking sounds are then made and the brain’s
responses are recorded and a readout is given on a computer screen A very small number of babies will need further testing (around 3 per cent). It is important that any hearing
loss is picked up within the first six months of life so that special support can be given to the parents to ensure normal language development later on.

Will my baby have any blood tests before we leave the hospital?
Apart from the newborn blood spot tests (see p.220), other occasions when a blood test may be required include
* If a baby is ill and his general health needs to be assessed which is most commonly done by checking blood sugars
* If a baby shows significant signs of jaundice, to check the bilirubin levels and rule out a more serious underlying condition in the baby, such as anaemia or an infection.
* If the mother is Rhesus negative (see p 79), although blood is usually taken from the umbilical cord at birth to determine the baby’s blood group and Rhesus factor
If the hospital does suggest taking blood from your baby, then a midwife, doctor, or other health professional should clearly explain to you the reasons why they recommend this
course of action and ask for your consent prior to blood being taken from your baby

Vitamin K

After the birth, you will be asked if you would like your baby to receive a vitamin K supplement. This is an essential vitamin for helping the blood to clot, and as babies
receive very little of it from their milk diet there is a small risk that they could suffer internal bleeding. There are two ways to give babies this supplement:
* By an injection, Only one dose is needed to prevent vitamin-K deficiency.
* By mouth Two doses are given in the first week and breastfed babies may have a further dose after a month.
I’ve heard that they check babies’ hips. Why is this?
All babies have two hip checks (see p.221) as part of the recommended child health screening programme. The checks are done in the first couple of days when the baby has a
physical assessment, and at 6-8 weeks of age when the physical assessment is repeated
The two conditions that are being screened for are congenital dislocated hip and developmental dysplasia of the hip, also known as ‘clicl y hips”. The screening may be carried
out by a doctor or a midwife, or later by a health visitor. If a problem is found. a splint may be recommended to align the hip correctly and ensure the socket develops normally.
Why do they measure the baby’s head?
Measuring a baby’s head is done to assess wellbeing, development, and brain growth Many babies have their head measured straight after the birth, but this probably isn’t the
most accurate measurement as the head may have changed shape as it passed through the birth canal It is not until a few days later that it settles into its normal shape. Your
health visitor usually takes a measurement at one of her visits in the first few weeks after the birth and this is generally used as the baseline measurement on your baby’s
growth chart. Measurements taken throughout the first year are plotted on this in a personal child health record that you will be given by your health visitor
Why do some newborns have jaundice?
Just over half of all newborns suffer from jaundice Usually it isn’t noticeable until 2-3 days after the birth and clears by 14 days The most common cause is high levels of
haemoglobin (the oxygen-carrying part of the blood) before birth Once babies are born and breathe for themselves, their haemoglobin count doesn’t need to be so high; these blood
cells die off and are processed as waste by the liver. In small babies, the liver is immature and takes a while to cope with the workload. The result is that instead of this
waste product, known as bilirubin, being passed in the urine and stools, it stays in the body for a while and gives the skin a yellow/orange colour In a healthy full-term baby
who is feeding well, jaundice will resolve on its own without any treatment. Sometimes, if there has been bruising, the baby is slow to feed, or is premature, the bilirubin
levels continue to increase, and in these cases phototherapy (ultraviolet light treatment) is needed to reduce the bilirubin levels in the baby.
Any jaundice that occurs within 24 hours of birth and any that continues after 14 days is investigated to rule out and treat any medical problems.
How much will he cry, or will he be asleep all the time?
Many factors influence your baby’s sleep pattern. such as the type of delivery you had: the gestation of your baby; his health at birth; and the method of feeding your baby,
with bottlefed babies tending to sleep for longer stretches. However, all babies need a lot of sleep approximately 16 hours each day, which consists of short intervals of sleep
intermingled with shorter periods of wakefulness through the day.
My baby’s foot is turned in and we’ve been told he may need a splint. What is wrong with him?
This is known as talipes and affects 1 in 1,000 babies. It’s more common in boys and affects one or both feet. Talipes may be positional or structural. Positional talipes is
caused by pressure compressing the foot while it’s developing, as a result of its position in the womb This may be resolved with exercises to help the foot regain its natural
position. Structural talipes is more complex and is caused by several factors, including a genetic predisposition. This needs prompt treatment while the tissues are soft to
manipulate the foot Splints, strapping, or casts may be used to hold the foot in place In some cases, if this is not effective, an operation to straighten the foot may be
suggested. Both surgical and manipulation methods have a good success rate. Your child will have regular reviews in childhood and adolescence. particularly during growth spurts,
and more surgery may be needed in adolescence. There are organizations to contact for support and advice (see p 310).

Newborn reflexes
Babies have several reflexes that are present from the moment of birth and are part of their survival skills.
* Startle, or morn, reflex. If a baby’s head is not supported, this produces a falling sensation and she will fling out her limbs. It’s important that you always support your
baby’s head. * Rooting reflex. If you touch your baby’s cheek, she will turn her head in search of food
* Grasp reflex. If you put a finger in your baby’s palm, she will grip it tightly with her fingers.
* Stepping reflex. If you hold your baby upright on a surface, she will make stepping actions.

It’s hard to imagine how you will feel at the start of your life with a new baby What is more certain is that you will most likely be shattered after the birth, and will probably experience a whole range of emotions, from euphoria at meeting your new baby and relief that the labour and birth are behind you, to tearfulness brought on by sheer exhaustion and anxiety at the prospect of caring for this tiny human being You may feel incredibly protective towards your baby and overwhelmed by the immense responsibility of looking after him All of these feelings are normal and part of the huge adjustment you make after having a baby. Here is what to expect in the first 12 hours.
1-3 hours Once your baby has been delivered and providing you both are well, you should be able to hold him straight away and enjoy your first cuddle. The cord will be cut by
the midwife, or possibly by your partner. After the birth, you will need to push again to deliver the placenta (see p.188). If you had an episiotomy or tore during the birth,
you will be given an anaesthetic before being stitched Minutes after the birth, your baby’s condition will be assessed using the Apgar score (see p 2 1 Y). Within the first
hour, he will be weighed, measured, cleaned, and wrapped in a blanket
If you are planning to breastfeed, you should be able to put your baby to the breast as soon as possible, he may root for your nipple straight away, or may simply enjoy being
held close to you and having skin-to-skin contact If you had a Caesarean, you will be moved to a recovery room once the operation is completed; once in the recovery room, the
midwife will help to position you comfortably for the first breastfeed. Also, in the first few hours after the birth, you and your partner will be offered some tea and toast, which is usually extremely welcome
4-5 hours By this stage, you may be recovering on the postnatal ward. If you haven’t already done so, you may want to shower and freshen up after the birth. You may need to have
someone with you at first in case you are feeling unsteady, If you had a Caesarean, you won’t be able to shower yet, but the midwife will be able to give you a bed bath. During
this time, you are likely to have your blood pressure, temperature, and pulse rate checked by the midwives, and any stitches you have will be checked intermittently to ensure
that they are not bleeding excessively or loose, and there are no signs of infection. You will also be offered medication to help you cope with any pain. Although you may be
sore after the birth, it’s a good idea to start moving around as soon as possible as this will help your recovery by building up your strength and helping your circulation
Movement will also encourage your bladder and bowel to start working sooner, Passing urine after having stitches can sting, so you may want to try pouring a jug of warm water
over your genitals when you go to the loo If you had a Caesarean birth, moving around will be more difficult, but it is still important to start to be active to avoid the risk
of blood clots developing.
6-12 hours Your abdomen will be palpated to check that the uterus is returning to its normal pre-pregnancy size and your bleeding, known as lochia (see p.264) will be checked to
ensure that it is not excessive and there are no signs of clotting Your baby may want to
feed and you can practise positioning him at the breast so that he latches on correctly (see p 228) The midwives or maternity support staff will help you to get started with
breastfeeding.You may find you experience fairly strong afterpains while feeding as your uterus contracts down (see p.264).You should also receive practical advice on how to
change your baby’s nappy and top and tail him (see pp.250-1). Don’t worry if you feel apprehensive about the practical care of your baby and try not to feel intimidated if there
are more experienced mums on the ward; you will find that your confidence grows quickly as you become practised at handling your baby The midwives have a supportive role to play
on the postnatal ward, so don’t be afraid to ask for help
Often, a sense of camaraderie builds up on the ward, and your stay in hospital can be a good opportunity to talk to other mums and share information and experiences You may feel
well enough to start receiving visitors and, if all is well with you and your baby and you feel ready, you may be able to return home!

How long will it last?
all about labour
How long will my labour last?
This is hard to determine as every woman is different and every labour is different. Also, how long your labour lasts depends on when you start timing it as the start of labour can be a gradual build-up that occurs over a fairly long period of time. Usually, labour is classed as being established when the contractions are regular and getting stronger and do not stop until the baby is born. This, coupled with the cervix opening, are indicators that labour has commenced. During the gradual build-up of contractions, labour is sometimes described as being in the ”latent” phase until it becomes more established. This latent phase may last for a period of around 6-8 hours in first-time mothers.
As a general rule, if this is your first baby -you should expect to labour for around 12-24 hours in total. If you have had a baby before, your labour may be a lot quicker, providing there are no other complications, particularly if you have had a vaginal delivery in the last 2-3 years. In some cases, usually with second or subsequent babies, labours can last for only a few hours, or even minutes, and in these situations the mother may not to make it into hospital. The best advice in all cases is to speak to your midwife or hospital if you think labour has started
I like to know what to expect. What will happen when I first arrive at the hospital?
Hospital routines vary, but generally you will be shown to a room on the labour ward, and one of the midwives on duty will come to see you. As
well as asking you about your labour so far, she will probably ask to check your temperature, pulse, and blood pressure, and listen to the baby’s heartbeat. She will also feel your tummy to assess the baby’s position and how far the head has engaged or
moved down in the pelvis (see p. 148) If -your contractions are regular, an internal examination may sometimes be done to reveal how far your cervix has dilated and therefore what stage your labour is at. This information will give the midwife an insight into the wellbeing of both you and your baby. and will help you both to decide on the next course of action. If your labour is in the very early stages, your midwife may suggest that you return home for a while or spend some time on an antenatal ward If your labour is well established, a delivery room will be found for you
How will the hospital check my progress?
An experienced midwife can tell a lot about your labour just by looking at you and observing your behaviour. For example, a woman who is chatting happily during each contraction is unlikely to be in well-established labour. A woman who is in established labour and starts to be restless and nauseous may be in the ”transition” phase; approaching the second stage of labour (see p.183)
Another way in which your midwife will assess your progress is by feeling your tummy to check the strength of the contractions, and also by feeling the position of the baby’s head in your pelvis
Internal examinations also reveal a lot about how your labour is progressing. By placing two fingers gently into the vagina, the midwife or doctor can feel how far the cervix is thinning out (effacing) and opening (dilating), how the baby’s head is moving downwards, and what position the baby’s head is in.
What is ARM, and is it routine?
ARM stands for”Artificial Rupture of the Membranes”. This means that a doctor or midwife, using a plastic ”crochet hook” with a long handle, control while taking gas and air and therefore you may find that you want to stop taking it while you are pushing if it is distracting you too much and stopping you focusing on the contractions Some women manage their entire labour on gas and air alone, while others find that they need another form of pain relief in the later stages of labour.
How will I use the gas and air and is it likely to make me feel sick?
Gas and air is breathed in through a mouthpiece or mask that is connected to a cylinder or pipes in the wall that lead to larger cylinders elsewhere. You administer it yourself, so are more in control of how much you take and when.
Gas and air can make your lips and mouth feel tingly and dry, and in some cases women report feeling nauseous while taking it. Using a mouthpiece rather than a mask may help to reduce feelings of nausea brought on by the smell of the gas and the sensation of having a mask over your face, and taking sips of water may help As the effect of gas and air is short-lived, you only need to use it during contractions; taking gas and air between contractions will not help with the pain of the next contraction and is likely to increase the sensation of nausea.
I want to have a great birth but you hear such awful stories -how can I stay positive?
For every awful birth story there is an equally positive one — it does tend to be the case that you are less likely to hear about the positive birth stories as these aren’t such good topics of discussion! However your labour and birth proceeds, the birth of your baby will be amazing because you will finally meet the little person who has dominated your life for the past nine months.
It is sensible to remain open minded about labour and birth, because it’s impossible to foresee exactly how things will go on the day However, there is a lot that you and your partner can do to help prepare yourselves for labour and birth so that -you
Gas and air
A form of self-controlled pain relief in labour
A mixture of oxygen and nitrous oxide that is self-administered in labour.
Gas and air, also known as Entonox, is taken through a mask or a mouthpiece during labour. This dulls the pain centres in the brain and produce a sense of euphoria This needs to be timed with your contractions as the effects are short-lasting, with the gas being breathed in just prior to and during a contraction. You will feel normal once you stop using it.
Gas and air tends to be the preferred choice for managing pain in women who want to labour as naturally as possible The reason for this is that gas and air has several advantages, including the fact that you can remain mobile and active while using it; it can he used during a water birth; it doesn’t affect the baby in any way; and it doesn’t make you feel drowsy during labour, which allows you to feel more in control throughout and to remain as focused as possible on your contractions. However, although it is a widely available and a popular choice of pain relief in the UK, it doesn’t tend to be used in the United States
have the best chance of having a positive overall birth experience. For example, you can both learn as much as possible about the process of labour and birth so that you can make informed decisions in labour. You can chat with your midwife, read books, find information on the internet, and attend antenatal classes. Also, knowing how labour progresses helps to demystify the experience and therefore removes some of the fear that accompanies labour and birth. Learning basic relaxation and breathing exercises also helps (see p.173), as being able to relax as much as possible during labour helps you to feel less anxious, which in turn can help the labour to proceed as quickly and smoothly as possible tears a small hole in the amniotic membrane that surrounds the baby and contains the amniotic fluid and the fluid then passes out through the vagina. This procedure is also referred to as ”breaking the waters” and may be uncomfortable. ARM can be used to try to induce, or speed up, labour (see p,191). The idea is that the layer of membrane between the baby’s head and the cervix is removed. This enables the head to press directly on the cervix, which in turn releases the hormones that stimulate contractions and start, or help to speed up, labour.
ARM should not be performed routinely. In a spontaneous labour that is progressing normally, there is no need, and the membranes will usually rupture on their own.
I’m worried about being strapped to a bed and monitored. Is that essential?
If there are no complications or reasons for concern, your baby’s heartbeat will usually be monitored using a hand-held device much like the one used during your antenatal appointments to listen to your
10cm dilated
baby’s heartbeat Once your labour is well under way, your midwife will listen to your baby’s heartbeat for about 30 seconds to one minute every 15 minutes or so, which means that you can move around as much as you like in between.
If you have had complications in pregnancy, or problems develop during your labour, the midwife may recommend that your baby’s heartbeat is monitored continuously using a ‘ CTO”, which stands for ”cardiotocograph” (see p.192). This means that you will have two monitors strapped to your tummy using thick elastic belts. One measures the baby’s heartbeat and the other measures the frequency of the contractions. The monitors are attached to a machine that prints out information in the form of a graph This allows the doctors and midwives to keep a close eye on your baby’s wellbeing and how she is responding to the contractions.
A CTO does make keeping active a little more difficult but by no means impossible. Leads can be moved out of the way and adjusted, and some maternity units have a wireless CTG You can talk to your midwife about how this will be managed.

When can I start pushing?
Ideally you can start pushing as soon as you feel the urge to, assuming that your cervix is fully open. The urge to push is usually stimulated by the baby moving down the birth canal, which happens at some stage once the cervix is fully open. You may experience a sensation of needing to open your bowels and may actually pass some stools or urine, as the baby is pushing on the back passage. This is a very common occurence in labour (see p 188)
If both you and the baby are well, you will be encouraged to follow the natural urge to push. Sometimes, you can feel an urge to push before the cervix is fully open If this is the case, it is important to resist this feeling as much as possible, as pushing at this stage can cause the cervix to swell, which makes it more difficult for it to dilate. Some women find that kneeling on all fours with their head and shoulders lower than their hips is a good position for this stage of labour.
What is “crowning” and should I continue to push during this part of the labour?
This term refers to the part of birth when the widest part of the baby’s head – known as the crown –eases out of the opening of your vagina. Your midwife will encourage you not to push at this stage so that the baby’s head can be born in a slow and controlled way, which can help to prevent serious tears to your vagina and perineum (the muscle and tissue around the outside area of your vagina and anus). Although stopping pushing can be hard, -you could try short panting breaths or slow steady breaths to help you achieve this.
Although many women are worried about the possibility of tearing during the delivery of their baby it can be reassuring to remind yourself that midwives are very experienced and practised at guiding women and helping them to avoid tears whenever possible.
Positions for the second stage of labour
Although by this point in your labour you may be extremely tired and the contractions are lasting longer, it is best to resist any urge to lie down as this will not help the progress of the baby through the birth canal.Your partner can help support you while you hold certain positions and help you to remain upright if possible so that gravity can assist your baby. Many women find squatting or kneeling on all fours the most comfortable, or if you really need to lie down, get your partner to support one leg so that the pelvis can remain as open as possible.

How long will the first stage of labour last?
The first stage of labour lasts until the cervix is fully open, or ”dilated” (see p.181). Women tend to time their labour from the first contractions, but midwives and other healthcare professionals don’t start to time a labour until it is ”established” once contractions are coming regularly, roughly once every three or four minutes, and lasting for about 45 seconds to one minute, and the cervix is around 3cm dilated Due to the difference in how labours are timed, you may hear about labours that lasted 50 hours and others that lasted two! On average, for first-time mothers labour lasts around 12-14 hours. If it continues after this time, the doctor may want to investigate why labour is not progressing
Once labour is established, healthcare professionals usually expect the cervix to open at an average rate of half a centimetre an hour. However, there are huge variations in this average,
and a labour can still be progressing normally with a slower or faster rate of dilation Your midwife will keep you informed about how things are going during your labour, and don’t be afraid to ask how things are progressing.
Is it best to stay upright in early labour?
It is thought that keeping upright and mobile can help labour to progress and make the pain easier
to manage. This is because in an upright position the baby’s head can press down onto the cervix and in turn stimulate it to dilate, and also gravity helps the baby to move down through the pelvis.
I’m having a trial of labour-how long will I be allowed to be in labour for?
A trial of labour is something that is done if, for example, a woman has had problems in pregnancy.
I’m scared in case I poo in labour, how will I feel?
You are not alone — lots of women are very nervous at the idea of pooing while they are in labour. It may not be what you want to hear, but in fact a large number of women do poo, usually during the second, or pushing, stage of labour. This is totally natural and happens as the baby’s head comes down the vagina and pushes against the rectum, where faeces are stored. The faeces are then forced out of the anus and this is totally beyond your control. It is unlikely that you will be aware of pooing at this stage — the overwhelming sensations of birth will be more powerful! Midwives and doctors are very used to women pooing, and will simply wipe it away without a second thought. Also, sterile cloths will be placed around so it will be easily cleared away.
Will I tear when the baby comes out?
Some women do sustain some degree of tearing during the birth of their baby Unfortunately, it is impossible to tell whether you will tear or not until the actual delivery Some tears only involve the skin and may not require any stitches However, others can involve the skin as well as the muscle underneath and the vaginal canal, and this will require stitches Stitching will be performed by an experienced midwife or doctor after you have had a local anaesthetic injection. There is some evidence to suggest that regularly massaging the perineum, which is the area between the vagina and anus, during late pregnancy may help avoid tearing (see p.111) Allowing the baby’s head to be born slowly can also help to prevent tears (see p 186).
What does a “skin-to-skin” birth mean?
”Skin-to-skin” is a phrase that means cuddling your naked baby against your bare skin. Many women wish to have skin-to-skin contact with their baby straight after the birth. This can help with bonding, the baby’s temperature control, and the initiation of breastfeeding. As long as you and your baby are well, there should be no reason why this cannot be done — having your baby cleaned, weighed, and dressed can wait a moment. Most health professionals now recognize the importance of this early skin-toskin contact, and will help you achieve this if that is what you wish. Communicate your thoughts and desires to your midwife as early as you can following admission to the labour ward, so that the midwife can plan your birth to try and meet your wishes.
What is the third stage of labour?
The third stage of labour lasts from after the birth of the baby until the placenta, or afterbirth, and membranes (the amniotic sac your baby has been growing inside) have been delivered. This stage can last for around 10-15 minutes to an hour, depending on whether you have drugs to speed it up (see below).
How does the placenta come out?
After the birth of your baby, the uterus starts to contract again and the placenta shears away from the wall of the uterus and passes out through the vagina. This will not feel the same as giving birth to the baby as the placenta is soft and squashy and much smaller! You may have had an injection to speed up this part of labour, and this is referred to as a “managed” third stage (see below). If this is the case, your midwife will apply gentle traction to the umbilical cord to guide the placenta and membranes out. If you are having a natural third stage, you won’t need an injection, which may mean that this part of labour lasts a little longer, and the midwife will encourage you to deliver the placenta and membranes by pushing, and perhaps squatting over a bedpan Your midwife will advise you as to whether a natural or managed third stage, or a choice between the two, is most suitable for you
What happens when you have an injection for the third stage of labour?
Women are usually offered an injection of syntometrine during the baby’s birth. This is a mixture of two drugs, syntocinon and ergometrine, both of which help the uterus to contract and so speed up the delivery of the placenta and membranes This is also thought to help prevent the risk of heavy bleeding. Having this injection means that the third stage of labour lasts about 10
to 15 minutes. If you have raised blood pressure you will be offered a slightly different injection - just the syntocinon - as ergometrine is known to stimulate a rise in blood pressure.
What happens to the placenta?
checking the afterbirth
The placenta has sustained your baby during her nine months in the womb, and what happens to it after its delivery is a common question.
* The placenta will be checked to ensure it is complete and has been delivered successfully If it looks healthy, it will be disposed of in the hospital
* It may be taken away for analysis in a laboratory if there is anything untoward in its appearance.
* Some cultures perform ceremonies with the placenta; and in some parts of the world there is even a tradition of eating the placenta
However, if your pregnancy, labour, and birth have been straightforward, there is no reason why you should not have a ”physiological”, or natural, third stage of labour.
What will happen once my baby has been delivered?
Once your baby has been born, if all is well, you will be encouraged to hold him and get to know him. The placenta and membranes will be delivered and the midwife will examine your vagina and perineum to see if you need stitches, which will be done under a local anaesthetic When you are ready, your baby will be checked over (see p.217), labelled with your name and her date of birth, weighed, and dressed. If she hasn’t fed already, the midwife will help you with the first feed You and your partner may also be offered tea and toast, which is usually most welcome! Before going onto a postnatal ward, you will be helped to wash and go to the toilet. If you and the baby are fit and well, you may be able to go home within a few hours, sometimes straight from the labour ward, providing you have all the help you both need.
If you have a Caesarean, you will be moved to a ‘recovery” room near to the theatre for up to two hours to observe your breathing rate, pulse, and blood pressure. Your incision and vaginal blood loss will be checked as will your fluid levels, and the midwife will help you to breastfeed your baby. You will then be moved to a postnatal ward.
It all sounds very “busy”. Will we be left alone at all once the baby is born?
Many couples look forward to having some time alone together after the baby’s birth in order to start to get to know, and bond with, their baby in private. There shouldn’t be a problem with this, as long as neither mum nor baby has any medical problems The midwife will make sure you know how to call for assistance if you need it. You would usually be taken to a postnatal ward about two hours after your baby’s birth, if all is well Or an early discharge home may be an option.

The three stages of labour
How your labour -progresses
Your labour is divided into three stages. The first stage begins when you have regular contractions that widen your cervix: the second stage starts when your cervix is fully dilated and ends with the birth of your baby; and the third stage is the delivery of the placenta and membranes
What is the first stage of labour? The first stage of labour describes the process in which your cervix dilates (progressively opens because of the womb contracting) from being tightly closed to being around I Ocm - wide enough to get the baby out, or ”fully dilated”. During this first stage
of labour, contractions generally start off gently and don’t last very long - about 30-45 seconds. It is now recognized that you are in established labour only if you are 4cm dilated. Prior to this stage, the contractions you have been feeling have been
The birth of your baby
ripening (effacing) your cervix During the early stages of labour, it is a good idea to rest and eat carbohydrates such as toast or pasta, so that you will have some energy when the contractions really kick in. This is called the latent stage of labour. Once the contractions do start coming regularly, staying active is beneficial in that it can help labour become established, as gravity will help press your baby against your cervix Going to bed could result in labour ceasing altogether. In a first labour, the time from the start of established labour to full dilation is between 6 and 12 hours, although it is often quicker for subsequent labours.
What is “transition”? Towards the end of the first stage of labour, you may feel a great urge to push with each contraction. This period, when you are between 8-1 Ocm dilated, is called transition. It may
be brief, or could last up to an hour, and is often seen as the most challenging part of labour. You will need to resist the urge to push if you are not fully dilated, and may need to use breathing techniques - such as blowing out in little puffs - to help you.
What is the second stage of labour? Once your cervix is fully opened (fully dilated), this is known as the second s-age of labour At the beginning of the second stage, you may experience a pause in contractions, but they will resume and you will be ready to push your baby out with each contraction. Your contractions will now be very close together and very strong, lasting 60-90 seconds, for which you will probably need pain relief (see p. 174). Most hospitals will limit the length of the pushing stage to less than three hours You will soon see your baby
What is the third stage of labour? The third stage of labour is the delivery of your placenta. This is the afterbirth that has been feeding your baby during pregnancy You will be offered an injection
of syntometrine to speed this process up and reduce the risk of heavy bleeding, or you can to wait until the placenta comes away naturally If you choose a natural, or physiological, delivery of the placenta, this can take from 30 minutes to one hour, and you tend to bleed a bit more than if you have an injection.

A natural breech birth
If you are having a natural vaginal delivery with a breech birth, this will be carefully handled by an obstetrician. A vaginal breech birth can be slower than a head-first, cephalic, delivery as the bottom doesn’t push down as much The obstetrician will
guide the baby out. Usually, the buttocks are delivered first and then the legs will be carefully guided out The baby may then be rotated to deliver the shoulders as smoothly as possible Lastly, the weight of the baby helps to draw the head down for delivery
or has had a previous Caesarean. This allows a woman to be in labour long enough to determine if a vaginal birth may be possible. It is hard to say how long you will be allowed to labour for, as the length of time depends on how your labour is progressing and the opinion of the medical staff caring for you.
Your labour will be closely monitored, with your midwife regularly assessing its progress to check that the cervix is dilating as expected and that the baby is moving down through the pelvis. You may be offered continuous monitoring of the baby’s heartbeat (see p.192) and would be close to medical assistance in the event of a Caesarean being needed.
When will I be fully dilated?
”Fully dilated” means that your cervix is fully open so that your baby can move down the vagina and be born. When your labour begins, your cervix is either closed, or only one or two centimetres open The contractions of the uterus gradually open it further until it is completely open. Once this happens, you are in the second stage of labour, which lasts until the birth. The point at which your cervix is fully
dilated can occur quite quickly after the onset of strong, regular contractions, or can take many hours.
What is meant by “transition” and why do people say it’s the worst bit?
Transition describes the.period of time between the end of the first stage of labour and the onset of the second, or pushing, stage. Contractions are usually at their strongest and most frequent at this point It can last from a few minutes to over an hour, and in some cases may not happen at all. The transition period is often characterized by a woman feeling exhausted, fed up, unable to cope, shaky, or nauseous. In films and books, this is often the time when a woman swears and gets a bit mad with her partner! It is usually around this time that the first feelings that you need to push begin.
If you experience any of the unpleasant symptoms of transition, it helps to focus on the fact that your baby will soon be born. Try to keep your breathing slow and regular, and focus on your partner and midwife for additional support.

Positions for the first stage of labour
In the early stages, many women prefer to walk around, and being active helps labour progress. If you get tired, sitting on a chair leaning forwards can be comfortable, as can kneeling over a birthing ball or pillows Some women find sitting on the toilet comfy! If you want to lie down, lying on your left side is best as the pelvis isn’t restricted and can open as the baby moves down, and the blood flow to the baby is not affected

Dilatation
In the early stages of labour, the cervix begins to soften, known as effacement, and then starts to widen, or dilate, so that the baby can pass through it and out of the vagina The baby’s head cannot pass through
the cervix until it is I Ocm wide and fully dilated The time this takes varies with each labour, Some women are several centimetres dilated at the start of labour while others take several hours to reach this stage.
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How will I know I’m in labour?

How will I be able to tell that I’m really in labour?
The one completely sure sign that you are in labour is that you are experiencing regular contractions that are causing your cervix (the neck of womb) to dilate or open, and this can only be determined by your midwife or doctor during an internal examination.
True labour contractions are usually painful, occur very regularly and grow stronger and more frequent as time goes on There are other signs that labour could be on its way, such as a mucous vaginal show or discharge (see below), but these are not true indicators that labour is actually underway.
If you are unsure about whether you are in labour, you could try timing your contractions from the beginning of one to the beginning of the next and note how often they occur. If you are in labour. then you will notice them becoming closer together and increasing in duration If you think you are in labour, always call your midwife or your nearest delivery unit for guidance and advice.
What is a “show”?
During pregnancy, a plug of jelly-like mucus seals the lower end of your cervix and this prevents infection getting into your womb. This “plug” comes
away towards the end of pregnancy, and although this can mean that labour is going to start soon, it
can also dislodge up to six weeks before your labour actually starts. When the plug comes away, this is commonly referred to as a ‘’show’.
There was some blood with my show - is that OK?
Yes, it’s normal for a show to contain a small amount of either fresh blood or dark old blood (like at the end of your period) as part of the clear or cloudy mucus of the plug.
At which point should I ring the hospital?
If you are experiencing regular contractions that are getting closer together and increasing in the amount of time that they are lasting, then labour may well have started. When your contractions are around 5-10 minutes apart, you should phone the birthing unit for further advice
Other situations when it is recommended that you phone are if you think your waters have broken, your baby’s movements have slowed and become less frequent, you experience any bleeding, or you are in pain and not due for delivery
Never worry about phoning for advice; it is better to be well informed than to sit at home worrying about things Always carry essential contact numbers in your bag and keep them by the phone at home, as you never know when you may need to seek advice or when your labour may begin
What do people mean when they talk about your “waters breaking”?
The ”waters’ are the amniotic fluid contained in the membranous sack surrounding and protecting your
baby in the womb These membranes usually split or break towards the end of the first stage of labour. This means that the fluid continues to cushion the baby’s head and prevents direct contact with the cervix at first, helping you to cope with the pain. Eventually, the pressure causes the membranes to burst, releasing the amniotic fluid, which leaks or gushes through the vagina.
What should I do once my waters have broken?
If there is quite a large gush then you will be in no doubt about what has happened Sometimes, however, the waters break and produce a small trickle, which leaves you in some doubt as to whether they have broken If you think your waters have broken, I suggest putting on a sanitary pad and examining it after a short while to see if there is amniotic fluid visible If you are still unsure then always phone your midwife or local maternity unit for individual advice. Occasionally, the membranes can break early for other reasons, for example if the mother has an infection, or they may break for no apparent reason.
Can I have a bath after my waters have broken?
If there are no complications in your pregnancy and labour then you should be able to have a bath which you may also be using for pain relief. Indeed, using water in labour has been assessed in many trials and most show that women report a significant reduction in pain (see p.156)
Studies have found that there is no increase in the risk of infection rates in women who bathe in water following the spontaneous rupture of their membranes If you are unsure about this, ask your midwife about your local hospital’s guidelines, as most maternity units have specific policies to ensure safe practice regarding the use of water for both labour and birth.
What is a false labour?
False labour can be a number of things It can be a series of contraction-type pains that subside after a number of hours and that do not have the length, strength, or regularity to actually dilate the cervix, or neck of the womb. Braxton Hicks contractions very close to your due date can also be
Relaxing in early labour
You will probably spend early labour at home with your partner, timing contractions and deciding when to travel to the hospital if that is where you are giving birth. As this part of labour can continue for a considerable amount of time, possibly with periods when contractions stop altogether, try to spend time relaxing in between contractions to conserve energy for later. There are simple things you can do at home to help you relax. You can have a warm bath, get your partner to massage your back, stay mobile but rest if you need to, eat nutritious snacks, and drink fluids to give your body fuel to work well later. Contact the maternity unit or your midwife if you have any questions confused for tabour. With these, you do experience your uterus tightening and relaxing and there is a degree of discomfort. Braxton Hicks contractions are a sign that your uterus is preparing for the contractions of tabour If this is your first pregnancy, you may be unsure how to tell the difference between these practice contractions and the real thing. Real labour contractions are more regular, powerful, and usually more painful Some women barely notice these practice contractions, while for others they are quite uncomfortable. If this is the case, it can help to move around or have a warm bath to ease the discomfort.
Is it true that I will have to go to hospital if my waters break, even if contractions haven’t started?
If your waters break before your contractions have started, most maternity units have a policy that you should be seen by a midwife, either at the maternity unit or at home, to determine if you and your baby are both well. The main concerns when the waters break are the position of the umbilical cord -whether it is stuck in front of the baby’s head - and to rule out any chance of infection, and the answers to these two questions will determine the plan of care you will be offered
You may be offered an examination to look at the cervix to see if there is fluid leaking and, if so, its colour, and to take a swab of the area to determine if there are any bacteria that could pose a problem for the baby A cardiotocograph (CTG) may be performed, which monitors the baby’s heartbeat over a short period to identify if there are any signs that the baby is distressed (see p 192). If all is well with you and the baby, you will be able to return, or stay at, home to await events, although a further appointment may be made to discuss further options should your contractions not start within a specified time. This timescale varies and may be as little as 24 hours or as long as 96 hours if all remains well.
Around 85 per cent of babies are born within 48 hours of the waters breaking, even if there are no contractions initially.
Calling the midwife
Although each woman has a different experience, here is a rough guide for when to call the midwife and when not to call the midwife.
* Don’t worry about calling the midwife if your contractions aren’t regular, occurring just once or twice an hour, as these may be Braxton Hicks (see opposite).
* Don’t call the midwife if you have only had a show (see p.167).
* Do call the midwife if contractions are strong and regular, every 5-10 minutes * Do call the midwife for advice if your waters have broken.
How will I be able to tell the difference between real contractions and Braxton Hicks?
Labour contractions have several specific characteristics. They are very regular and over time increase in regularity and length, and they are also painful Most start as a period-type pain or backache that again increases in intensity over time. The other difference that you may or may not be aware of is that the cervix dilates (opens up) in response to true labour contractions, but does not with Braxton Hicks. One thing that may indicate this is happening is if you experience a show (see p 167)
What do labour contractions feel like?
Generally speaking, women feel contractions as a painful tightening of the muscles of the uterus Although they actually start at the top of your bump and progress to the bottom of the bump, you may experience more pain and a feeling of pressure in the lower part of your abdomen and pelvis as the baby is pushed down by the contraction.
Some women experience the pain in their tummy, while others experience labour pain as backache Generally, contractions tend to start as something that can be compared to a severe period pain,
gradually increasing in intensity; however, the degree of pain felt will be different for all women.
We’re having a home birth -what if the midwife doesn’t show up?
Arrangements for contacting the midwife when you are having a home birth will vary depending on where you live; however, certain things will be the same no matter where you are. Once you are 37 weeks pregnant, the midwives will be ”on call” for your delivery Your midwife will talk to you about the local procedure for contacting the midwife on call, which may be directly through a mobile phone or pager, or indirectly through the labour ward at your local maternity unit If you experience labour before you are 37 weeks, you will be asked to go to hospital as this is considered ”preterm ‘ labour (see p.161).
Once you are experiencing strong regular contractions, contact your midwife via the route you have been advised. If your labour starts in the daytime, midwives will be on duty m the area; if ifs evening or nightime, it might take them a little while to reach you, so bear these differences in mind Also, bear in mind factors like the traffic on the roads during rush hours, which may make it advisable to let the midwife know about your contractions sooner rather than later!
Most NHS Trusts have a policy of two midwives attending your home birth; in some areas, both midwives will be there throughout the labour and birth, while in others the second midwife will be called by the first midwife nearer to the delivery so that two midwives are in attendance at the birth In the worst case scenario, if your labour progresses rapidly and a midwife hasn’t arrived, contact your local maternity unit who may be able to arrange for paramedics to attend you until the midwife arrives. Please bear in mind that it’s very rare to have a home birth without your midwife being present and that babies who do arrive quickly usually do so with very little added complication.
They sent my friend home from the hospital - I don’t want that to happen to me.
Labours differ and are dependent on so many factors, and your friend’s circumstances and your own are likely to vary enormously. Unless you have been specifically advised to go to hospital early once you think labour has started, then the best place to be in the early stages of labour is at home. In first pregnancies, the first stage of labour, when your cervix dilates to around I Ocm (see p. 181), averages at about 12-14 hours. So if you go to hospital very early on they may well suggest you go home until labour is a little more advanced. Although you may feel that you want to stay at the hospital ”just in case”, unless you have to travel a great distance to and from your local maternity unit, you are likely to be more comfortable and relaxed in your own surroundings
Are there situations when you can’t eat or drink in labour?
The recommendations by NICE for labour are that
all women should be allowed to drink water in labour, and that isotonic, or sports water, may be slightly more beneficial because of its higher calorie value and quick absorption into the body, Eating light snacks, even in established labour, is recommended as long as you haven’t had opioid painkillers, which include pethidine and diamorphine, and there are no other risk factors that would make a general anaesthetic more likely. Most women find that they want to eat in early labour, but find that they cannot face food later in the first stage although they still want to drink
Will I be able to drive myself to hospital when labour starts?
Driving while in labour isn’t advisable and could be very dangerous to yourself, your passengers, and any other road users, including pedestrians. If you are in labour, you will be having regular painful contractions and this will interfere with your ability to focus and drive a car and will also diminish your awareness of your immediate surroundings. In other words, -you will be very distracted!
As the general advice about labour is to stay at home for as long as you feel comfortable this means that by the time you are travelling to hospital you will be in very established labour and so your ability to drive would be very much diminished
Another consideration is your insurance cover; if your driving is impaired because of pain you may well invalidate your insurance cover. The safe option is to get someone else to drive or to take a taxi.
How likely is it for a first labour to progress so quickly that you don’t make it to hospital?
In first pregnancies, labour usually lasts for 12-14 hours, with contractions building in intensity and length. Most women are happy to stay at home for the early part of the first stage, and get an idea of when they want to be in hospital as their contractions get more regular It is unusual with first babies, but not unheard of, for labour to be so quick or for you to have no sign of contractions, that you leave it too late to get to hospital Although this also depends on your distance from the hospital, traffic delays, or other factors that may increase your journey time
What are the signs that it is too late to go to the hospital?
Generally speaking, if you are having an uncontrollable urge to push, then that’s the point
where it may be too late to reach the hospital before your delivery If you did find yourself in this unfortunate circumstance, contact your local maternity unit who will arrange for paramedics to attend you for the delivery of the baby In some areas, they will also ask an on-call midwife to attend the birth. Or you can contact the emergency ambulance services yourself
Can I check how dilated I am myself or get my husband to do this?
There is one school of thought that believes that vaginal examination of the cervix shouldn’t be done routinely in a normally progressing labour by anyone, and that would include you and your partner. There are several reasons for this One is that some women find it a very uncomfortable procedure and staff gain very little information other than that the woman’s labour is progressing. Another reason is that it introduces the the risk of infection If you are having strong, regular contractions, your cervix will be starting to dilate, and any examination should be carried out by a trained midwife or obstetrician under ‘’sterile” conditions to limit the risk of infection. There is also the potential that whoever is doing the examination may break the bag of waters that are surrounding the baby before they would have broken naturally.
So although it might be possible to feel your own cervix depending on what stage of labour you are in, this isn’t something that is generally recommended.

Sex in pregnancy

Can having sex in pregnancy harm the baby in any way?
Unless you have been told by your midwife or doctor to avoid intercourse because of specific problems, such as a history of miscarriage or unexplained bleeding, then sex is perfectly safe as your baby is cushioned in fluid in the amniotic sac inside your womb and protected by a cervical plug, and even deep penetration isn’t harmful. Enjoying intimacy with your partner will also be beneficial for your relationship.
I’m either uncomfortable when we make love or not in the mood. Should I fake it?
Levels of sexual desire in pregnancy vary greatly, with some women finding their sex drive is heightened, while others feel too ill, anxious, hormonal, or just too uncomfortable to attempt sex at all. If you really don’t want sex, be as honest and open as you can about your lack of sex drive. Don’t be pressurized into doing something you really don’t want to do, as this could complicate your relationship. Communication is very important at this time, so talk to your partner about how you are feeling — you may find that he is completely unaware of your feelings, anxieties, and worries.
You could use the presence of your ”bump” as an ideal excuse to experiment with different positions, as most couples find the missionary position very uncomfortable in late pregnancy Some couples prefer it if the woman is on top as this allows her more control over the amount of penetration and there is less weight on her bump. A ‘’spooning” position, with your partner behind you, also allows for shallower penetration and removes pressure on your bump totally Having a baby is all about adapting to new experiences, and most couples find they need to adapt their sex life too
Since we hit the second trimester I’ve wanted sex more than ever - why is this?
Often, in the second trimester, women find that once early pregnancy symptoms wear off they feel far more energetic and sexier than ever! However, this may not be the case for everyone as each woman is affected differently by the physical and psychological changes that occur in pregnancy, and women have different views about their changing bodies, which can affect their libido.
From a physiological point of view, an increased blood flow to the pelvic area combined with an increased lubrication of the vagina means that, in theory, having sex can be better than ever So if you and your partner are quite happy with your increased sex drive, this is not a problem.
My placenta is low and I’ve been told to avoid sex. Why is this? I’m only 30 weeks’ pregnant.
As the baby develops and grows so does the womb, with the result that the placenta is carried upwards away from the opening of the womb. However, in
10 per cent of women, the placenta remains low-lying during late pregnancy and then poses a risk because of potential bleeding (see p 92). A low-lying placenta is often first detected at an early scan and, if this is the case, it is usual for a repeat scan to be carried out at around 34 weeks of pregnancy to determine if the placenta is still low and exactly where it is situated in respect of the opening of the cervix (neck of the womb).
The biggest risk from a low-lying placenta is bleeding and if you have already experienced any bleeding, it is usual to recommend that you avoid sexual intercourse, as agitation of the cervix, which happens during sex, can encourage more bleeding If in doubt, it’s probably best to discuss your particular circumstances with your midwife or consultant obstetrician
My partner hasn’t wanted sex at all since I’ve become pregnant. Will he ever fancy me again?
It isn’t uncommon for either partner to experience a reduced sexual desire in pregnancy for a variety of reasons. It is important that you talk to your partner and ask about his feelings while also explaining your own thoughts and feelings.
Some partners find pregnancy a little scary, and some of these fears centre around sex and concerns about harming the baby or you. Sometimes, these worries may be based on real concerns, for example if there have been any problems in early pregnancy such as threatened miscarriage, bleeding, pain, or excessive morning sickness. Equally they can be based on misunderstanding, and this is where discussion between the two of you will help.
Although you may feel more attractive and sexy, perhaps your partner is feeling clumsy and
Talking to each other
Maintaining a healthy relationship
It is essential that you and your partner keep the lines of communication open during this time of change and some uncertainties.
* If you have gone off sex completely, reassure your partner that this is a
temporary situation and explain how the pregnancy is making you feel mentally and physically.
* Likewise, if your partner seems reluctant to initiate lovemaking, don’t take it
personally. Try to find out how he is feeling. * Don’t allow a quieter sex life to stop you being affectionate at other times.
uncomfortable. Each couple is different and you will need to talk to each other to find your way through this. You may also feel that you want to talk to someone who isn’t so closely involved, such as your midwife, doctor, a trusted friend, or a relative
Is it best to stick to oral sex during pregnancy?
Research on the benefits and risks associated with oral sex in pregnancy is limited and the findings are very often contradictory There is nothing that indicates that oral sex is recommended in place of penetrative vaginal sex unless you have been advised to avoid sexual intercourse because of the risk of bleeding, threatened miscarriage, or premature labour, when avoiding orgasm is also advisable and so complete abstinence is the better option for a while. Apart from this, it is important to remember that some infections can still be passed on easily by oral sex.
Will having an orgasm cause me to go into labour?
In a pregnancy without problems, an orgasm alone will not cause premature labour, and at full term orgasm will only cause the onset of labour if your body is ready for labour anyway. If you have had any signs of premature labour, or if you have had premature rupture of your membranes (see p.167) you will be advised to avoid sexual intercourse. This is because the hormone oxytocin increases during sexual arousal and the effect from the oxytocin is to cause the muscles of the uterus to contract.
During pregnancy the muscles of the uterus experience practice contractions, known as Braxton Hicks (see p 168), which are not harmful, and orgasm may increase these practice contractions
If you have gone past your due date and are at a point when your body is ready to go into labour, then sexual intercourse may help things to start for two reasons the prostaglandins in semen will help the cervix to soften at this stage of pregnancy, and the contractions stimulated by orgasm have more chance of developing into early labour contractions.
I’ve got problems with my pelvis - is there a comfortable way for us to have sex?
Problems with the pelvis, particularly symphysis pubis dysfunction or SPD (see p.82), tend to be made worse by moving your legs too far apart, so it is a matter of finding a position that you feel comfortable in that doesn’t involve too much stress on the pubic area. Many women find the “missionary position” the most difficult as it involves significant parting of the legs, plus there is the weight of a partner to consider Some, although not all, women find an all-fours position for intercourse more comfortable, both for sexual intercourse and for giving birth. If intercourse is really proving difficult, then it could be that while you are experiencing significant problems you will need to find alternative ways for you and your partner to be intimate that don’t involve penetrative sex.
Many women find that pelvic discomfort improves significantly once they have had the baby. A very useful organization that has a lot
of information and advice on pelvic pain during
pregnancy is the Pelvic Partnership (see p 310). You can also talk to your midwife or doctor for a referral to a physiotherapist, which may be beneficial and help you to achieve a greater degree of comfort during pregnancy
I’m 36 weeks. My boyfriend insists on regular sex and has been a bit abusive. Is this normal?
It is not normal for someone to be abusive to another person or to force them to have sexual intercourse when they don’t want to You should never be forced to do something that is against your will. In almost 30 per cent of all domestic abuse cases, the first incidence occurs in pregnancy. It is very important that you talk to someone about how your boyfriend is treating you, perhaps to a close friend or relative There are also organizations that offer confidential advice and help you if you really feel there is no one you can talk to or trust (see p.3 10). You could also try talking to your midwife, who will treat everything you say in the strictest confidence and will have details of local organizations that can help and advise you.

Comfortable lovemaking
You and your partner may need to experiment more during pregnancy to find lovemaking positions that are comfortable for you and your rapidly growing bump As pregnancy progresses, most women find that lying on their back in the missionary position becomes increasingly uncomfortable as your partner presses on your bump. You may find being on top an enjoyable position, which allows you to control penetration and does not put pressure on your tummy. Lying in the spoons position, with your partner behind you, can be pleasurable and puts no pressure on your abdomen. Other positions that don’t restrict your pleasure and are comfortable include sitting together, kneeling while your partner enters from behind, and lying side by side with your legs bent over your partner’s legs.

How will I know I’m pregnant? FAQs.

I think I might be pregnant -what is the best way for me to confirm this?

By far the most accurate way to confirm a pregnancy is to perform a home pregnancy test. If used correctly, these are extremely accurate. Your doctor can offer a pregnancy testing service if confirmation is required This may be the case if, for example, you test too early and get a false negative result (see below) and then lose faith in the home test Apart from a home pregnancy test, pregnancy can also be confirmed with a blood test, although this is usually only done if there are possible problems such as irregular bleeding. Occasionally, ultrasound scans are used to confirm a pregnancy particularly if there is a question mark about the dates, although an embryo cannot be seen on a scan until at least four weeks after conception.

I feel pregnant - how early can I do a test?

Pregnancy tests determine if you are pregnant by detecting a hormone called human chorionic gonadotrophin (hCC) in your urine. This pregnancy hormone is released when the fertilized egg is implanted in the lining of the womb and it rises significantly in the early stages of pregnancy.Most pregnancy tests can now detect hCG as early as the day you are due to have your period. If you have irregular cycles, use your longest recent cycle to determine when you should test

My period is late but the pregnancy test was negative. Could I be pregnant?

If your test was negative and you still think you may be pregnant, wait for three days and perform another test! there may not have been enough hCG in your urine when the first test was carried out. If you have had two or three negative tests and still feel you may be pregnant, or your period has not arrived, ask your doctor for advice as there may be a number of medical reasons apart from pregnancy why your period has not arrived.

Are home pregnancy tests reliable?

If you follow the instructions carefully, home pregnancy tests are around 97-99 per cent accurate. When you are carrying out a home pregnancy test, it is advisable to use the first urine sample of the day and to not drink too much fluid the night before This is to prevent the sample becoming too diluted, which could make it difficult to measure the levels of hCG. Certain fertility medications can interfere with the results of a pregnancy test, so if you have been undergoing any fertility treatment and think this may apply to you, you should ask your doctor or fertility clinic for more information and advice. Doing a pregnancy test too early in pregnancy can produce a false negative result, which means that the test reads negative but you are really pregnant. If you think this may be the case, repeat the test in three days’ time.

I’m on the Pill but my doctor has confirmed I’m pregnant.
How can this have happened?
The oral contraceptive Pill is around 92-99.7 per cent effective, depending on the brand and how reliably it is taken. Although figures indicate that approximately 8 out of 100 women do become pregnant during the first -year of using the Pill, other studies indicate that
when the Pill is taken properly as instructed this figure falls to less than I out of 100
Ideally, the Pill should be taken at the same time each day although some types can be taken up to 12 hours late. If you forget to take even one Pill, you increase your chances of getting pregnant. If two or more Pills from the same packet are missed, this can dramatically increase the risk of pregnancy if no other contraception is being used.
Certain drugs, such as antibiotics, some herbal remedies, and other medicines can interfere with the reliability of the Pill Also, sickness and diarrhoea can reduce the Pill’s effectiveness. Talk to your doctor, who will be able to help and advise you about what your options are next.
My girlfriend has told me she’s pregnant - how can I be sure it’s mine?
Unfortunately, the only way to be sure that you are the father of her baby is to take a DNA test, which can be carried out several weeks after the baby is born. To do this, you will need the consent of the
mother, as samples of DNA will need to be obtained from the child (and possibly from the mother too). DNA (deoxyribonucleic acid) is found in our body cells and is responsible for our genetic makeup and hence our characteristics. DNA is identified in a blood sample or from a scraping of cells inside the cheek. Samples from the child and partner need to be obtained in the same way,
I drank and smoked quite a lot before I realized I was pregnant. Will this affect the baby?
As you are probably aware, it is not advisable to drink and smoke during pregnancy. There are, however many women in your position who did not realize they were pregnant and continued to smoke and drink The important thing is to stop drinking and smoking now and take the best possible care of yourself and your baby As many young women ”binge drinks’, it is important for women of child-
bearing age to be aware that alcohol does cross the placenta and is a toxic substance to the baby. Most women, once they realize they are pregnant, stop drinking immediately and this is the best course of action for you to take.
If a mother continues to drink heavily, the alcohol can adversely affect the developing fetus, especially between weeks 4 and 10 of pregnancy, and serious complications, such as fetal alcohol syndrome and fetal alcohol spectrum disorder can develop. If one of these conditions develops, it can result in physical, behavioural, and learning disabilities that can have lifelong implications for the baby Drinking in pregnancy also increases the risk of miscarriage and premature labour.
The harmful chemicals in smoke can restrict the baby’s growth and cause dependency on nicotine even within the womb (see p 42) so give up now
I haven’t got any pregnancy symptoms yet - when are they likely to start?
Not everybody feels the full range of pregnancy symptoms as soon as they become pregnant, and it is not uncommon for some women to experience none at all. There are many factors that influence the range and intensity of pregnancy symptoms, such as your age, working environment, your state of health, diet, previous pregnancies, smoking, and how your body reacts to pregnancy hormones.
Nausea and vomiting are among the most common symptoms that women report, usually in the first three months and starting at around six weeks. These tend to improve by 12 weeks, but for some women can continue throughout the pregnancy.
Another early pregnancy symptom is breast tenderness, which is caused by changes in the levels of hormones that help to get your breasts ready for breastfeeding. The breasts may enlarge and become tender and heavier.

My partner doesn’t seem as enthusiastic as me about the pregnancy - should I be worried?
Men and women can react to the news of a pregnancy in different ways and for many men, coming to terms with a pregnancy can take far longer. It’s worth bearing in mind that during the early stages of pregnancy, men can find it hard to relate to the pregnancy as they have yet to see their baby on a scan or the changes in your body On the other hand, you may be very aware that your body is undergoing many physical and emotional changes.
It’s likely that your partner simply needs more time to adjust to the news. He may be concerned about the changes to your lifestyle and the financial implications of having a baby Talking openly to each other can help to ease anxieties for you both.

First signs of pregnancy
The most obvious initial sign that you are pregnant is a missed period. Other common early pregnancy symptoms include feeling extremely tired and bloated, having increasingly tender breasts, experiencing an increased need to pass urine, and finding that you have a greater or lesser sex drive, although all of these symptoms can occur premenstrually Some women also experience a small bleed around the time their period was due: which may be confused with a lighter period, that occurs when a fertilized egg implants in the wall of the uterus. There may also be a metallic taste in the mouth, nausea or vomiting - described as morning sickness, although this can occur at any time of day Some women don’t experience any symptoms.

A surprise pregnancy
dealing with unexpected
If your pregnancy was unplanned, you may have to work through feelings of shock and anxiety before coming to terms with this life-changing event.
* Be open with your partner about your feelings and reassure him that this is as much of a shock for you
* Rather than feel anxious about your lifestyle, make positive changes straight away! adopt a healthy diet, stop smoking and drinking, and take folic acid (see p.15). *You may feel overwhelmed, but rather than despair, just allow yourself time to adjust physically, mentally. and emotionally
These early symptoms may settle around the middle of the pregnancy A lack of symptoms is not indicative of how healthy your pregnancy is - you may just be one of the lucky few who sail through with no annoying side effects’.